I mainly used TikTok, and actually a lot of @Ilhanm.a videos on instagram. But basically I just used to think of a dish I want to make, and go on TikTok to find a nice seasoned recipe
Anon
3 years ago
Hi girls! Loving the platform.
So my dilemma is, ya girl got herself involved in a secret FWB/situationship. When I tell you, none of my friends/family know, I am not kidding. They all think I’ve been single for the longest when meanwhile I would sneak out late at night and have the time of my life. And y’all, it went on for 4 YEARS!!! *worth mentioning it’s been on and off during this time e.g. breaking contact before every Ramadan *
The thing is neither of us were entertaining other people and of course I caught feelings. He has always been very honest with me and told me that he is not ready to commit and that “love” is not in the cards for him. He has said this himself but I figured he wasn’t were he needed to be career wise and was still dealing with demons.
I gradually became comfortable with dropping the L-bomb whilst not hearing anything back. Eventually, he ended things to spear me of further pain and return back to the deen.
The thing is, I’m convinced the guy loves me back. I’m an “acts of service” kind of girl and I’m all about the small things. Every thing he would do for me would SCREAM. I’ve convinced myself that he’ll come back.
It’s needless to say that we had amazing chemistry. I mean this situaitonship lasted longer than any other of my previous relationships plus we were friends before anything else.
I think the icing on the cake however was when he told me one day that if he felt the same way I did we would have been married by now. *gulps* that’s a harsh one to swallow.
How do I shut down the fantasies and accept that he’s just not meant for me? That surely if he wanted me, he would have done something about it?
Ouch. That is so fucking deep. At one point I was going to say if he wanted you, you guys would be together but he said it to you already. And honestly, you needed to hear that. This is what is so cruel. 4 years of your life wasted and the second he wanted to jump on deen, he didn’t give you a second thought. He was OUT.
That is what you need to remind yourself. That no matter what, you were disposable to him and that you fucking deserve better than that. Wallahi I feel like one day you’re going to deep everything and you’re going to be like whatttttttt this guy is a prick!! And then you won’t miss him anymore, you’ll just be so angry.
Honestly it is going to be hard to get over this one, unrequited loves is the worst. I wish I had a timeline for how long it’d take to get over them but Wallahi it will happen. One day you won’t miss the idea of being with that person so much anymore. Instead, you will be focused on finding someone who shares your feelings. And that, my friend, will be a good day.
Anon
3 years ago
Salam! I don’t know how to start, but I have always felt a big void in my life in terms of womanhood/sisterhood within Islam and Somali community. I don’t have a sister, nor cousins in my country, nor aunt, and from a young little girl I was felt left out. Always forgotten, not invited, and when I would ask the few friends that I have they would always say I like to keep my circles separate. It’s an extreme sense of loneliness. I tried joining groups in Muslim communities yet coming into these places not knowing anyone with everyone having there established friend groups always made me want to leave early. I don’t know if this is a question or if I’m just venting but loneliness has become the loudest noise in my life now. I have become quiet suicidal and I know it’s haram but every prayer I make, I pray Allah takes my life away. Going to Ramadan the only dua I make is for it to be my last. I’m tired of feeling like a lone wolf when all I ever want is to be included just as I try to make others too. I feel helpless and I stay in my room to sleep as a way to pass the time and the hurt. All I ask is for you to pray for me.
It breaks my absolute heart that you feel this way. I’ll make the sincerest dua for you and hope that Allah swt gives you the happiness you are searching for.
That feeling of loneliness has got to be one of the scariest feelings ever, and I feel like its more prominent the older you get. This is where community and friendship becomes very important and necessary for you. When you said you tried to join some groups and you left because of your fear of not knowing people stood out to me. You have a constant fear of rejection, and deep down you don’t actually feel like you’re worthy to be in those groups. So not only do you not have a community, you stop yourself from finding one because of this fear. I know you’ve probably heard this before but to some extent, the “you’ve got to love yourself first” might have a kernel of truth to it, but maybe it’s not entirely well stated. I feel as though you have never really been yourself around other people because you’re too scared that they’d reject you or find the real you in some way unlikeable. Having lived with this anxiety for some time (I’m assuming), perhaps you are also worried you don’t actually know who the “real you” really is anymore if that makes any sense. A lot of people going through lockdown can relate. But ultimately you have to love you first before people can start loving you too.
For me personally, the feeling of loneliness caught me when I first graduated. My parents didn’t really live in the same country as me, the family members I was close to had their own lives, so now that University was done, and real life was here- I just felt so fucking lonely. Especially because I knew I didn’t even like my first degree. I felt lonely around other people, and lonely with myself, too, because I just couldn’t seem to connect with this new reality after leaving University. I also detached myself from my old immature life so It kind of felt like I didn’t really have an identity anymore. I was just living for the sake of living. The best recommendation someone gave me was (who do you think that was haha) that I should figure out the person I want to be and courageously engage with the world in ways that accord with that vision. I knew I’d be happier if I changed and pursued a different field, so I just did it. I hated how adulthood was just about finances and expenses now so I started being really responsible with my money, so that I could feel comfortable. And lastly that this was a reminder for me that regardless of anything that changes in my life, the only think that can make me truly happy is if I have a relationship with my Lord.
That’s what you need to return to. I understand depression can be so fucking overwhelming to the point you start saying things that are so outlandish and unlike you, but remember this is illahi calling you back to him. Just be patient, sometimes you will be surprised at how quickly life does a 180. And everything you have been begging for, Allah set gives you that and then some.
I just want to shake you. Go back to your prayer, find the thing that makes you YOU, get yourself out there and don’t let the fear of rejection stop you from making great relationships. Be strong
Anon
3 years ago
Hey girlies, am I disrespecting myself by settling for marriage or am I overthinking. This guy I liked for a while from the states claims he likes & wants to marry me {after ghosting for months}, except my gut tell me he’s far from ready and to run. He’s a physiotherapist so earns a pretty decent amount, smart, hard working, a family guy, kind to me, flew down to see me 3X, ticks a few boxes I mainly look out for in a man but part of me including my close cousin tells me I could be settling. I’ve known him for 3 and a half years, including speaking for a few months to blocking to unblocking and speaking again. At the time he seemed emotionally unavailable to commit to anything i.e saving up for marriage was not on his mind , wanted to go with the flow, slacked making time to speak to me/visit me/call regularly doesn’t celebrate my achievements, none of his friends know of me and hardly hypes me up. I feel like a second choice as something to keep aside when he’s bored while he looks for what he wants but after many conversations and broken trusts, I don’t know what to believe. Anyway, now he’s back again should I take the risk to dip before it’s too late and drop all these chances I’m constantly giving, even if this time he could be serious about working things through (i.e bringing his family down the uk to discuss marriage) or do I keep an open minded to see where it takes us? Appreciate you girlies
You have been talking for 3 and a half years, and it isn’t going anywhere. He lives in the states and you live here in the UK. For long distance to work, both of you have to be committed, not just you. I feel like for long distance to even work, you literally have to be burning for each other. But from the sounds of it, this man is very half hearted. In fact he makes you feel like a second choice. To me continuing this relationship is more trouble than its worth. Men inside the penitentiary show more love to their women on the outside. This is just very long and it does not sound like this guy is going to take this anywhere yet plan for all his family to come to the UK when he can’t even do the bare minimum.
Free yourselves from the shackles of long distance when you could find something in the UK. Wallahi getting married should not be this hard.
Anon
3 years ago
Im in a situation that i need advice on. I’m a stay at home mom and have been married for 9 years. Right after we got married we moved to the opposite side of the country for his job. A couple months ago he decided to moves us all back in with my family and leave to America to pursue business with his family. I am currently looking for a job but ive been out of the work force for 8 yrs and its taking longer than expected. He has been pressuring me to find a job so that he can pursue this business in America. I told him im not comfortable with that because were not in a good financial situation to afford it. He went on vacay and came back to his family angry saying he wants a divorce because I was not down for this plan. I was in shock and apologized for everything and promised to do what he wanted to make our marriage work. He told me his parents would support us financially in the mean time until he started making money. I didnt agree with or believe that but i went a long with it bc i didnt want to make him mad again. Every couple weeks he sends a couple hundred dollars barely enough to cover the bills ive been left with. Recently hes been saying im not putting his happiness first or fulfilling his haq because i refused to have phone sex with him n send him pics. Last week i logged in to his ig and found out that he has been messaging and following girls/“warmth for the winter” since he left to america with the help of his cousin who hes staying with. After i confronted him about the girls he follows he said thats what he has to do since i’m not doing anything for him. Im truly at a loss for words at this point. I dont know how to navigate this. Ive never felt so hurt and my mental health is in the trash.
I am sorry you are facing this difficult situation. I haven’t been married long enough to know what you should do, but in regards to career or financial advice, I could have something.
Before you consider anything right now, my advice would be to start finding a way back into the workforce. It’ll serve you well IF you stay in this marriage and it’ll serve you well if you leave. he has a big advantage here: Not only does he have income, he has work history too. That makes it easier for him to earn his way if a divorce were to happen. You unfortunately don’t have this luxury. Although it is his financial responsibility to look after his children, some men are done with women and their kids after they get divorced. It is so fucked up but it happens. You have supported him in the marriage and you staying at home raising the kids, at the expense to your own career and depending if your marriage is only considered an Islamic marriage, you probably won’t be entitled to anything. So bare that in mind.
So before you do anything, get a job. Save, ask for your family’s support. Build your safety net in the event the marriage does breakdown. Its unfortunate but women have to sometimes think of these things especially Housewives. And definitely if someone is threatening divorce over your head. Build your network, work on getting a job, and try to build a little foundation for yourself. I really hope it works out for you.
Anon
3 years ago
Hi, there has been a guy I’ve been speaking to for a few months now who is from a different country, but he has been acting very strange. At first we were speaking on most days and then out of no where he has been very hot or cold with me. He will ghost me for weeks then pop up like nothing happened. This is the first time something like that has happened to me and I don’t want to entertain him if this is how he is moving, I’d rather he be upfront with me and make it clear if he is interested or not, because I’m on the verge of blocking him at this point. Any advice on how I should approach this.
I’m not surprised he thought he could ghost you, especially when you are just talking over the phone for a few months. After a while pen pals can get really boring and it is very easy for men to detach themselves from you, especially when you’rein another country. And of course they will come back when they need to be entertained again. Clearly if he is ghosting you for weeks at a time, then obviously this whole set up is not very serious for him and he is not committed to it. You shouldn’t even been committed to this set up either if I’m being honest. You’re too invested. Continue phone calls with him, but don’t put your eggs in one basket. After all, he is half way across the pond.
Anon
3 years ago
Hey girl, quick one yeah… I’m talking to this man who is like 7 years older nice job and nice manners. Really gentle guy. I need some advice. He’s like two inches shorter than me. It dosent bother him he says he’s still attracted to me and finds me very feminine. I don’t know I have always never given short dudes a chance but he’s like so kind and it’s all positive points. What do I do???? SOS
Go for it, 2 inches is not that bad. Just don’t wear heels.
This is giving Zendaya and Tom Holland.
Anon
3 years ago
Hi beauts
This is my dilemma.
Been married for a year now, i have really tried to make it work however it’s not working. I feel that the relationship is one sided. I am a hopeless romantic and not once have i received anything from him. Ever. I am sick and tired and want a guy who worships the ground i walk on but this guy doesnt. He is sweet but just dont get the attention i need. I feel sometimes that we are just house mates. Other then that, everything is great.
I have bought up divorce a few times but he is not having it. I feel like i rushed into this marriage and i just want to live my life and work on myself. I just feel constantly depressed and i am getting the ick of everything that he is doing. But i feel that i have no valid reason for divorce
Honestly i am at my wits end and pray everyday he mentions divorce
I’ll be honest, it really does sound like you got married to someone who wasn’t compatible with you, who didn’t do anything you liked. A lot of people ignore this aspect in relationships thinking someone will change in future but unlikely. This is why I say to girls, if you don’t like something in the beginning, do not proceed until it has been resolved because this is how frustrated you’ll eventually get. I’m actually taken aback by how much you resent him.
You say everything else is great, it’s just this one thing. If that’s the case, work it out.
This is the real world, not some stupid romantic comedy. You can’t be so quick to quit if there’s the one thing that you don’t like about your spouse. If he works hard for you and looks after you, is a Husband to you, that’s something worth fighting for imo. If you want your husband to be more romantic, then talk to him about what you want. He may have no idea how you feel. Marriage is about communication and compromise. So get with it.
Wallahi if you can’t work things out because of one thing when everything else is so great, you are going to have a hard time keeping relationships. Listen to yourself, you know you truly have no reason for divorce, so work it out…
Anon
3 years ago
hey ladies, how do i get my man to spoil me without me having to ask?
Make it known from the beginning, and when I say beginning: when you guys are first getting to know each other. Say things like romance is really important for you and that is what makes up most of the relationship. Without that you don’t really feel interested.
– Also don’t suggest any date ideas until he has planned at least 3-4 by himself.
– Don’t ever offer to pay
– And whenever he does do anything nice for you, let him know its appreciated and that you guys have a lovely time together.
The ones who don’t do this, don’t waste your time. You can’t force a man to be romantic if he doesn’t want to.
Anon
3 years ago
Dilemma!! My husbands brothers wife is the devil! I wouldn’t even class that as my sister in law, she’s so jealous of every thing I do. Everything she sees happening in our marriage the good and sometimes bad she runs off to my husbands mum and snakes. Funny thing is my MIL doesn’t even like her too haha, she literally lives for gossip and stirring shit because she has nothing else to do, I stay away from her but she’s always at my MIL’s house smh. What do you think I should do? I’ve never had issues with anyone in the past but this one here is a witch all sweet to your face but behind your back a witch. I literally want to drag her hair most times but don’t wanna make myself look bad
How do you deal with a sister in law who hates you? Simple answer is you don’t. If at a family function you stay diplomatic. If she truly hates you then obviously that’s her problem and not yours. Make sure your relationship is the bare minimum. Just enough to keep things cordial, but you’re not her friend and she’s not yours. Do not make things political because at the end of the day, you two are just the wives to this big family. God knows what they will say about the both of you.
If you want to avoid her, maybe invite your MIL to your house, or take her out instead. Take the control from the annoying SIL. Do not give her the power to make your life miserable. Its your power that she is using. Put her out of your mind and pay her no more attention.
Any recommendations for ytube channels for cooking? I’m getting married soon and all the receipts Ik are traditional so I wanna mix it up
I mainly used TikTok, and actually a lot of @Ilhanm.a videos on instagram. But basically I just used to think of a dish I want to make, and go on TikTok to find a nice seasoned recipe
Hi girls! Loving the platform.
So my dilemma is, ya girl got herself involved in a secret FWB/situationship. When I tell you, none of my friends/family know, I am not kidding. They all think I’ve been single for the longest when meanwhile I would sneak out late at night and have the time of my life. And y’all, it went on for 4 YEARS!!! *worth mentioning it’s been on and off during this time e.g. breaking contact before every Ramadan *
The thing is neither of us were entertaining other people and of course I caught feelings. He has always been very honest with me and told me that he is not ready to commit and that “love” is not in the cards for him. He has said this himself but I figured he wasn’t were he needed to be career wise and was still dealing with demons.
I gradually became comfortable with dropping the L-bomb whilst not hearing anything back. Eventually, he ended things to spear me of further pain and return back to the deen.
The thing is, I’m convinced the guy loves me back. I’m an “acts of service” kind of girl and I’m all about the small things. Every thing he would do for me would SCREAM. I’ve convinced myself that he’ll come back.
It’s needless to say that we had amazing chemistry. I mean this situaitonship lasted longer than any other of my previous relationships plus we were friends before anything else.
I think the icing on the cake however was when he told me one day that if he felt the same way I did we would have been married by now. *gulps* that’s a harsh one to swallow.
How do I shut down the fantasies and accept that he’s just not meant for me? That surely if he wanted me, he would have done something about it?
Ouch. That is so fucking deep. At one point I was going to say if he wanted you, you guys would be together but he said it to you already. And honestly, you needed to hear that. This is what is so cruel. 4 years of your life wasted and the second he wanted to jump on deen, he didn’t give you a second thought. He was OUT.
That is what you need to remind yourself. That no matter what, you were disposable to him and that you fucking deserve better than that. Wallahi I feel like one day you’re going to deep everything and you’re going to be like whatttttttt this guy is a prick!! And then you won’t miss him anymore, you’ll just be so angry.
Honestly it is going to be hard to get over this one, unrequited loves is the worst. I wish I had a timeline for how long it’d take to get over them but Wallahi it will happen. One day you won’t miss the idea of being with that person so much anymore. Instead, you will be focused on finding someone who shares your feelings. And that, my friend, will be a good day.
Salam! I don’t know how to start, but I have always felt a big void in my life in terms of womanhood/sisterhood within Islam and Somali community. I don’t have a sister, nor cousins in my country, nor aunt, and from a young little girl I was felt left out. Always forgotten, not invited, and when I would ask the few friends that I have they would always say I like to keep my circles separate. It’s an extreme sense of loneliness. I tried joining groups in Muslim communities yet coming into these places not knowing anyone with everyone having there established friend groups always made me want to leave early. I don’t know if this is a question or if I’m just venting but loneliness has become the loudest noise in my life now. I have become quiet suicidal and I know it’s haram but every prayer I make, I pray Allah takes my life away. Going to Ramadan the only dua I make is for it to be my last. I’m tired of feeling like a lone wolf when all I ever want is to be included just as I try to make others too. I feel helpless and I stay in my room to sleep as a way to pass the time and the hurt. All I ask is for you to pray for me.
It breaks my absolute heart that you feel this way. I’ll make the sincerest dua for you and hope that Allah swt gives you the happiness you are searching for.
That feeling of loneliness has got to be one of the scariest feelings ever, and I feel like its more prominent the older you get. This is where community and friendship becomes very important and necessary for you. When you said you tried to join some groups and you left because of your fear of not knowing people stood out to me. You have a constant fear of rejection, and deep down you don’t actually feel like you’re worthy to be in those groups. So not only do you not have a community, you stop yourself from finding one because of this fear. I know you’ve probably heard this before but to some extent, the “you’ve got to love yourself first” might have a kernel of truth to it, but maybe it’s not entirely well stated. I feel as though you have never really been yourself around other people because you’re too scared that they’d reject you or find the real you in some way unlikeable. Having lived with this anxiety for some time (I’m assuming), perhaps you are also worried you don’t actually know who the “real you” really is anymore if that makes any sense. A lot of people going through lockdown can relate. But ultimately you have to love you first before people can start loving you too.
For me personally, the feeling of loneliness caught me when I first graduated. My parents didn’t really live in the same country as me, the family members I was close to had their own lives, so now that University was done, and real life was here- I just felt so fucking lonely. Especially because I knew I didn’t even like my first degree. I felt lonely around other people, and lonely with myself, too, because I just couldn’t seem to connect with this new reality after leaving University. I also detached myself from my old immature life so It kind of felt like I didn’t really have an identity anymore. I was just living for the sake of living. The best recommendation someone gave me was (who do you think that was haha) that I should figure out the person I want to be and courageously engage with the world in ways that accord with that vision. I knew I’d be happier if I changed and pursued a different field, so I just did it. I hated how adulthood was just about finances and expenses now so I started being really responsible with my money, so that I could feel comfortable. And lastly that this was a reminder for me that regardless of anything that changes in my life, the only think that can make me truly happy is if I have a relationship with my Lord.
That’s what you need to return to. I understand depression can be so fucking overwhelming to the point you start saying things that are so outlandish and unlike you, but remember this is illahi calling you back to him. Just be patient, sometimes you will be surprised at how quickly life does a 180. And everything you have been begging for, Allah set gives you that and then some.
I just want to shake you. Go back to your prayer, find the thing that makes you YOU, get yourself out there and don’t let the fear of rejection stop you from making great relationships. Be strong
Hey girlies, am I disrespecting myself by settling for marriage or am I overthinking. This guy I liked for a while from the states claims he likes & wants to marry me {after ghosting for months}, except my gut tell me he’s far from ready and to run. He’s a physiotherapist so earns a pretty decent amount, smart, hard working, a family guy, kind to me, flew down to see me 3X, ticks a few boxes I mainly look out for in a man but part of me including my close cousin tells me I could be settling. I’ve known him for 3 and a half years, including speaking for a few months to blocking to unblocking and speaking again. At the time he seemed emotionally unavailable to commit to anything i.e saving up for marriage was not on his mind , wanted to go with the flow, slacked making time to speak to me/visit me/call regularly doesn’t celebrate my achievements, none of his friends know of me and hardly hypes me up. I feel like a second choice as something to keep aside when he’s bored while he looks for what he wants but after many conversations and broken trusts, I don’t know what to believe. Anyway, now he’s back again should I take the risk to dip before it’s too late and drop all these chances I’m constantly giving, even if this time he could be serious about working things through (i.e bringing his family down the uk to discuss marriage) or do I keep an open minded to see where it takes us? Appreciate you girlies
You have been talking for 3 and a half years, and it isn’t going anywhere. He lives in the states and you live here in the UK. For long distance to work, both of you have to be committed, not just you. I feel like for long distance to even work, you literally have to be burning for each other. But from the sounds of it, this man is very half hearted. In fact he makes you feel like a second choice. To me continuing this relationship is more trouble than its worth. Men inside the penitentiary show more love to their women on the outside. This is just very long and it does not sound like this guy is going to take this anywhere yet plan for all his family to come to the UK when he can’t even do the bare minimum.
Free yourselves from the shackles of long distance when you could find something in the UK. Wallahi getting married should not be this hard.
Im in a situation that i need advice on. I’m a stay at home mom and have been married for 9 years. Right after we got married we moved to the opposite side of the country for his job. A couple months ago he decided to moves us all back in with my family and leave to America to pursue business with his family. I am currently looking for a job but ive been out of the work force for 8 yrs and its taking longer than expected. He has been pressuring me to find a job so that he can pursue this business in America. I told him im not comfortable with that because were not in a good financial situation to afford it. He went on vacay and came back to his family angry saying he wants a divorce because I was not down for this plan. I was in shock and apologized for everything and promised to do what he wanted to make our marriage work. He told me his parents would support us financially in the mean time until he started making money. I didnt agree with or believe that but i went a long with it bc i didnt want to make him mad again. Every couple weeks he sends a couple hundred dollars barely enough to cover the bills ive been left with. Recently hes been saying im not putting his happiness first or fulfilling his haq because i refused to have phone sex with him n send him pics. Last week i logged in to his ig and found out that he has been messaging and following girls/“warmth for the winter” since he left to america with the help of his cousin who hes staying with. After i confronted him about the girls he follows he said thats what he has to do since i’m not doing anything for him. Im truly at a loss for words at this point. I dont know how to navigate this. Ive never felt so hurt and my mental health is in the trash.
I am sorry you are facing this difficult situation. I haven’t been married long enough to know what you should do, but in regards to career or financial advice, I could have something.
Before you consider anything right now, my advice would be to start finding a way back into the workforce. It’ll serve you well IF you stay in this marriage and it’ll serve you well if you leave. he has a big advantage here: Not only does he have income, he has work history too. That makes it easier for him to earn his way if a divorce were to happen. You unfortunately don’t have this luxury. Although it is his financial responsibility to look after his children, some men are done with women and their kids after they get divorced. It is so fucked up but it happens. You have supported him in the marriage and you staying at home raising the kids, at the expense to your own career and depending if your marriage is only considered an Islamic marriage, you probably won’t be entitled to anything. So bare that in mind.
So before you do anything, get a job. Save, ask for your family’s support. Build your safety net in the event the marriage does breakdown. Its unfortunate but women have to sometimes think of these things especially Housewives. And definitely if someone is threatening divorce over your head. Build your network, work on getting a job, and try to build a little foundation for yourself. I really hope it works out for you.
Hi, there has been a guy I’ve been speaking to for a few months now who is from a different country, but he has been acting very strange. At first we were speaking on most days and then out of no where he has been very hot or cold with me. He will ghost me for weeks then pop up like nothing happened. This is the first time something like that has happened to me and I don’t want to entertain him if this is how he is moving, I’d rather he be upfront with me and make it clear if he is interested or not, because I’m on the verge of blocking him at this point. Any advice on how I should approach this.
I’m not surprised he thought he could ghost you, especially when you are just talking over the phone for a few months. After a while pen pals can get really boring and it is very easy for men to detach themselves from you, especially when you’rein another country. And of course they will come back when they need to be entertained again. Clearly if he is ghosting you for weeks at a time, then obviously this whole set up is not very serious for him and he is not committed to it. You shouldn’t even been committed to this set up either if I’m being honest. You’re too invested. Continue phone calls with him, but don’t put your eggs in one basket. After all, he is half way across the pond.
Hey girl, quick one yeah… I’m talking to this man who is like 7 years older nice job and nice manners. Really gentle guy. I need some advice. He’s like two inches shorter than me. It dosent bother him he says he’s still attracted to me and finds me very feminine. I don’t know I have always never given short dudes a chance but he’s like so kind and it’s all positive points. What do I do???? SOS
Go for it, 2 inches is not that bad. Just don’t wear heels.
This is giving Zendaya and Tom Holland.
Hi beauts
This is my dilemma.
Been married for a year now, i have really tried to make it work however it’s not working. I feel that the relationship is one sided. I am a hopeless romantic and not once have i received anything from him. Ever. I am sick and tired and want a guy who worships the ground i walk on but this guy doesnt. He is sweet but just dont get the attention i need. I feel sometimes that we are just house mates. Other then that, everything is great.
I have bought up divorce a few times but he is not having it. I feel like i rushed into this marriage and i just want to live my life and work on myself. I just feel constantly depressed and i am getting the ick of everything that he is doing. But i feel that i have no valid reason for divorce
Honestly i am at my wits end and pray everyday he mentions divorce
Gosh. That last sentence nearly took me out.
I’ll be honest, it really does sound like you got married to someone who wasn’t compatible with you, who didn’t do anything you liked. A lot of people ignore this aspect in relationships thinking someone will change in future but unlikely. This is why I say to girls, if you don’t like something in the beginning, do not proceed until it has been resolved because this is how frustrated you’ll eventually get. I’m actually taken aback by how much you resent him.
You say everything else is great, it’s just this one thing. If that’s the case, work it out.
This is the real world, not some stupid romantic comedy. You can’t be so quick to quit if there’s the one thing that you don’t like about your spouse. If he works hard for you and looks after you, is a Husband to you, that’s something worth fighting for imo. If you want your husband to be more romantic, then talk to him about what you want. He may have no idea how you feel. Marriage is about communication and compromise. So get with it.
Wallahi if you can’t work things out because of one thing when everything else is so great, you are going to have a hard time keeping relationships. Listen to yourself, you know you truly have no reason for divorce, so work it out…
hey ladies, how do i get my man to spoil me without me having to ask?
Make it known from the beginning, and when I say beginning: when you guys are first getting to know each other. Say things like romance is really important for you and that is what makes up most of the relationship. Without that you don’t really feel interested.
– Also don’t suggest any date ideas until he has planned at least 3-4 by himself.
– Don’t ever offer to pay
– And whenever he does do anything nice for you, let him know its appreciated and that you guys have a lovely time together.
The ones who don’t do this, don’t waste your time. You can’t force a man to be romantic if he doesn’t want to.
Dilemma!! My husbands brothers wife is the devil! I wouldn’t even class that as my sister in law, she’s so jealous of every thing I do. Everything she sees happening in our marriage the good and sometimes bad she runs off to my husbands mum and snakes. Funny thing is my MIL doesn’t even like her too haha, she literally lives for gossip and stirring shit because she has nothing else to do, I stay away from her but she’s always at my MIL’s house smh. What do you think I should do? I’ve never had issues with anyone in the past but this one here is a witch all sweet to your face but behind your back a witch. I literally want to drag her hair most times but don’t wanna make myself look bad
How do you deal with a sister in law who hates you? Simple answer is you don’t. If at a family function you stay diplomatic. If she truly hates you then obviously that’s her problem and not yours. Make sure your relationship is the bare minimum. Just enough to keep things cordial, but you’re not her friend and she’s not yours. Do not make things political because at the end of the day, you two are just the wives to this big family. God knows what they will say about the both of you.
If you want to avoid her, maybe invite your MIL to your house, or take her out instead. Take the control from the annoying SIL. Do not give her the power to make your life miserable. Its your power that she is using. Put her out of your mind and pay her no more attention.