You can make your own using wordpress but it is a bit difficult but youtube can pretty much guide you from there. Just avoid programming because that’s what makes it hard
Anon
3 years ago
When do you think is the appropriate time to ask asking a guy your dating more deep question, like if his family would accept someone from a different tribe , I don’t want t to seem excited but I also don’t want to waste time when I can get to know others more seriously
Maybe after the 2nd or 3rd date, that’s when you should start having much deeper conversations imo.
Anon
3 years ago
I’m 22, from the UK. My family isn’t really tribalist but my parents would rather me marry a Lander or someone that doesn’t have Southern “ traditions”. Theyre okay with Daaroods like DBlock and MJs and OGs but theyre very much against Hawiyes and them sorts. But i feel like this limits me to only Northern tribes. Ive been talking to this Puntlander boy but he seems put off by my tribalist family although i told him they dont mind his tribe
Clearly you parent’s mind, you’re just not being honest with yourself and is why your subconsciously asking us. He is well in his rights to be put off, I would too. If I knew the potential I was talking to had parent’s with tribalist-like views, and we weren’t from the same tribe? Ah that’s too long for me. The fact your parents have a preference and are against southerners, they are tribalist. No matter how you try to fluff it up and make it sound nice, that’s the truth. Now whilst this guy your talking to is from Puntland, they are still not your parent’s preference. Ask them now if they’d be okay with it and if they won’t.
If they won’t decide for yourself whats worth more to you, this relationship or your relationship with your parents? You need to be proactive, theres no point just waiting and hoping your parents are gonna change, when you know they won’t.
Anon
3 years ago
I actually don’t know how to respond when men call me beautiful or give any appearance based compliments???
Just smile and say thank you. If it’s too awkward for you. If you want your reply to have a little humour, you can try saying “I’m glad we think alike.”
Anon
3 years ago
Hi sis. Love your page and how much encouragement you’ve been giving young women! Anyways my dilemma is that I’ve begin to see me and my best friend of 9 years drift apart both emotionally but also in terms of keeping each other updated on each other’s life. The problem started when she and her husband had a huge mess of a fight and it even came close to divorce talks. During those fights he mentioned how much he didn’t like me as a friend and that I wasn’t even that “religious” and taunting her to sin and stuff. It really hurt me bc that’s stuck with so long but anyways they’ve gotten over the mess and have reconciled but it was caused me to feel inferior and very much a bother to her so I now avoid visiting her and avoiding any outings where the husband is. It doesn’t help that I’m the single friend who studies at a further college so now she’s got closer friends to her college and I’m always the one out of loop with her life. I know life happens but it sucks how I’m anxious and just uncomfortable texting her my thoughts and worried since my trust was broken by her letting her husband go through our texts. Is this the end of our friendship and just let things slip away as they are? also pls don’t post this to Twitter since she might see it.
All love and thanks for the outlet.
Regardless of your feelings towards her husband, at the end of the day it doesn’t change the fact that he’s her husband. This seed he has already planted in her ear is done, its festered. She probably has accepted her relationship with you is over and is why she is slowly distancing you and connecting with new friends.
I feel really sad for you but sometimes your friends end up being shit. People who you thought were with you for life, all it takes is a stupid man to enter their life and now they start looking at their real friends differently. Not everyone has a back bone or a mind of their own. When he treats her like shit again, she is going to wish she had you in her life. But don’t be the emotional dump when she needs someone.
Realise people come and go in life, the best thing to do is make the most of it, enjoy their company, learn and grow from their experiences and when they are gone be happy you got to share that with them.
Anon
3 years ago
Hi sister love this page mashallah!
I have been married for a while Alhamdulilah everything in my marriage is great I couldn’t ask for a better half allahuma barak. The only issue is since I gave birth my libido has really taken a hit. Before I had my son my libido wasn’t high but I would be able to get in the mood for intimacy with kissing etc. but now I don’t even like to be touched I don’t know what it is. I am still very much attracted to my partner and have lost all the baby weight ( I am smaller now than I was before getting pregnant). My husband is very understanding but I know as a guy he must get frustrated, Alhamdulilah he’s never taken this frustration out on me and understands that I need some time but I just feel so bad for not fulfilling his needs. My question is what can I do to increase my libido? And how do I get out of the mindset that intercourse scares me for some reason.
Ps. I have tried speaking to my GP but because of COVID back log it is hard to get an appointment.
Awwwww there’s so many things you can do. I wish Ladan was here because this is actually her advice (I was with her when she gave it to a friend)
Get someone to help you with the baby! One evening out of the week, drop off your baby so you and your husband can have some much-needed alone time. Go out to dinner and then when you come back home, do something nice together like a card game or something. Avoid just watching tv or a film together because you’ll just end up being tired. Use this time to focus on getting close.
Now that baby weight isn’t an issue for you, go out and get new lingerie to start making you feel more confident again. I think actually seeing the lingerie on your body will make you more excited/eager for someone to see on you.
Also just start slow, focus more on just holding hands and hugging eachother. I feel like you just need to be more eased into it more than anything. Start slow and eventually you’ll get there.
Your Husband is really sweet, May Allah swt preserve you both
Anon
3 years ago
When you say to email your lecturers a plan or a draft do you send your fully written essay and say it’s just a draft or do you send the points you’ve made that not fully written up
I say its a draft but really its an essay, don’t do long paragraphs
Anon
3 years ago
How do you get over a feat of guys Loool I feel like now that my friends are always dating or are with guys I feel like it’s time for me to do the same but I’m honestly scared to talk to guys , I’m sooo bad at it and it makes me so uncomfortable I also do a lot of self sabotage like telling myself why would a guys me interested in me or they will never take me seriously etc , even when I get moved I always lie about my name socials etc but I really want to change that in 2022 but the whole topic of dating and guys makes me soo uncomfortable to the point I feel weird talking to my friends about it because of how insecure I feel about it
You’re going to have to approach it from a perspective other than the one your brain is creating.
At a certain age, you need to get a grip. We can’t be shy anymore post 23-25 imo. Men are human beings just like you and aren’t scary. Also you won’t get married that second if you just give them your name. You’re not a kid anymore
However what i will say is, try being friendly with men first. Don’t worry about dating right now. Focus on making friends and expanding your social circle. That way you can practice being yourself around people and since they’re friends, you don’t need to worry about the stuff that comes with dating. Also, most couples that meet in real meet through mutual friends, so there’s that!
Anon
3 years ago
So one of my good male friends moved to me and made it know he wants to get to know me and tbh I was always interested but never made it obvious or made a move because I didn’t think he’d feel the same , Anways fast forward now we’ve been dating for a while and it’s going good but I feel like we have left is so late to tell out mutual friends about this and it might make it awkward as we go out a lot together and have a huge friendship group , I don’t want them to feel like we were keeping it a secret but more of it being a cautious things just in case if that makes sense
Only tell your friends when you are ready to stop chilling with them as a couple.
You can’t have your cake and eat it. Either one of you has to cut off the friendship group and make it obvious you guys have separated this friendship- from the new relationship. Also don’t tell other people in the group unless you guys are exclusive. Dating with someone in the friendship group can put immense pressure on either party to make it work and publicising this just adds to the pressure IMO. Also it just invites people to interfere with in the relationship
Only tell them until you’re ready to separate yourself from the group.
Also…it’s way hotter when people don’t know. Can really ignite the chemistry.
Anon
3 years ago
How would you approach it when guys from social move to or or ask you out , I prefer meeting guys in real life because of that instant connection and it’s less forced compared to social , I feel like it would be sooo awks too because it straight away on a more serious vibe if you know I mean
If I was single and someone ‘moved to me’ on social media, it wouldn’t take it as he wants to get to know me romantically, I’d personally treat it as if one of my twitter mutuals dm’d me. But if we happen to keep the conversation going.. then in my mind it could lead to somewhere. I feel like thats how you should treat it. No pressure and let it be like you’re just getting to know your friend, until it becomes obvious both of you really like and want to get to know each other.
I want to start writing a travel blog but I have no idea where to start , do I hire someone to create a website for me then do I just start from there
You can make your own using wordpress but it is a bit difficult but youtube can pretty much guide you from there. Just avoid programming because that’s what makes it hard
When do you think is the appropriate time to ask asking a guy your dating more deep question, like if his family would accept someone from a different tribe , I don’t want t to seem excited but I also don’t want to waste time when I can get to know others more seriously
Maybe after the 2nd or 3rd date, that’s when you should start having much deeper conversations imo.
I’m 22, from the UK. My family isn’t really tribalist but my parents would rather me marry a Lander or someone that doesn’t have Southern “ traditions”. Theyre okay with Daaroods like DBlock and MJs and OGs but theyre very much against Hawiyes and them sorts. But i feel like this limits me to only Northern tribes. Ive been talking to this Puntlander boy but he seems put off by my tribalist family although i told him they dont mind his tribe
Clearly you parent’s mind, you’re just not being honest with yourself and is why your subconsciously asking us. He is well in his rights to be put off, I would too. If I knew the potential I was talking to had parent’s with tribalist-like views, and we weren’t from the same tribe? Ah that’s too long for me. The fact your parents have a preference and are against southerners, they are tribalist. No matter how you try to fluff it up and make it sound nice, that’s the truth. Now whilst this guy your talking to is from Puntland, they are still not your parent’s preference. Ask them now if they’d be okay with it and if they won’t.
If they won’t decide for yourself whats worth more to you, this relationship or your relationship with your parents? You need to be proactive, theres no point just waiting and hoping your parents are gonna change, when you know they won’t.
I actually don’t know how to respond when men call me beautiful or give any appearance based compliments???
Just smile and say thank you. If it’s too awkward for you. If you want your reply to have a little humour, you can try saying “I’m glad we think alike.”
Hi sis. Love your page and how much encouragement you’ve been giving young women! Anyways my dilemma is that I’ve begin to see me and my best friend of 9 years drift apart both emotionally but also in terms of keeping each other updated on each other’s life. The problem started when she and her husband had a huge mess of a fight and it even came close to divorce talks. During those fights he mentioned how much he didn’t like me as a friend and that I wasn’t even that “religious” and taunting her to sin and stuff. It really hurt me bc that’s stuck with so long but anyways they’ve gotten over the mess and have reconciled but it was caused me to feel inferior and very much a bother to her so I now avoid visiting her and avoiding any outings where the husband is. It doesn’t help that I’m the single friend who studies at a further college so now she’s got closer friends to her college and I’m always the one out of loop with her life. I know life happens but it sucks how I’m anxious and just uncomfortable texting her my thoughts and worried since my trust was broken by her letting her husband go through our texts. Is this the end of our friendship and just let things slip away as they are? also pls don’t post this to Twitter since she might see it.
All love and thanks for the outlet.
Let go of this friendship.
Regardless of your feelings towards her husband, at the end of the day it doesn’t change the fact that he’s her husband. This seed he has already planted in her ear is done, its festered. She probably has accepted her relationship with you is over and is why she is slowly distancing you and connecting with new friends.
I feel really sad for you but sometimes your friends end up being shit. People who you thought were with you for life, all it takes is a stupid man to enter their life and now they start looking at their real friends differently. Not everyone has a back bone or a mind of their own. When he treats her like shit again, she is going to wish she had you in her life. But don’t be the emotional dump when she needs someone.
Realise people come and go in life, the best thing to do is make the most of it, enjoy their company, learn and grow from their experiences and when they are gone be happy you got to share that with them.
Hi sister love this page mashallah!
I have been married for a while Alhamdulilah everything in my marriage is great I couldn’t ask for a better half allahuma barak. The only issue is since I gave birth my libido has really taken a hit. Before I had my son my libido wasn’t high but I would be able to get in the mood for intimacy with kissing etc. but now I don’t even like to be touched I don’t know what it is. I am still very much attracted to my partner and have lost all the baby weight ( I am smaller now than I was before getting pregnant). My husband is very understanding but I know as a guy he must get frustrated, Alhamdulilah he’s never taken this frustration out on me and understands that I need some time but I just feel so bad for not fulfilling his needs. My question is what can I do to increase my libido? And how do I get out of the mindset that intercourse scares me for some reason.
Ps. I have tried speaking to my GP but because of COVID back log it is hard to get an appointment.
Awwwww there’s so many things you can do. I wish Ladan was here because this is actually her advice (I was with her when she gave it to a friend)
Get someone to help you with the baby! One evening out of the week, drop off your baby so you and your husband can have some much-needed alone time. Go out to dinner and then when you come back home, do something nice together like a card game or something. Avoid just watching tv or a film together because you’ll just end up being tired. Use this time to focus on getting close.
Now that baby weight isn’t an issue for you, go out and get new lingerie to start making you feel more confident again. I think actually seeing the lingerie on your body will make you more excited/eager for someone to see on you.
Also just start slow, focus more on just holding hands and hugging eachother. I feel like you just need to be more eased into it more than anything. Start slow and eventually you’ll get there.
Your Husband is really sweet, May Allah swt preserve you both
When you say to email your lecturers a plan or a draft do you send your fully written essay and say it’s just a draft or do you send the points you’ve made that not fully written up
I say its a draft but really its an essay, don’t do long paragraphs
How do you get over a feat of guys Loool I feel like now that my friends are always dating or are with guys I feel like it’s time for me to do the same but I’m honestly scared to talk to guys , I’m sooo bad at it and it makes me so uncomfortable I also do a lot of self sabotage like telling myself why would a guys me interested in me or they will never take me seriously etc , even when I get moved I always lie about my name socials etc but I really want to change that in 2022 but the whole topic of dating and guys makes me soo uncomfortable to the point I feel weird talking to my friends about it because of how insecure I feel about it
You’re going to have to approach it from a perspective other than the one your brain is creating.
At a certain age, you need to get a grip. We can’t be shy anymore post 23-25 imo. Men are human beings just like you and aren’t scary. Also you won’t get married that second if you just give them your name. You’re not a kid anymore
However what i will say is, try being friendly with men first. Don’t worry about dating right now. Focus on making friends and expanding your social circle. That way you can practice being yourself around people and since they’re friends, you don’t need to worry about the stuff that comes with dating. Also, most couples that meet in real meet through mutual friends, so there’s that!
So one of my good male friends moved to me and made it know he wants to get to know me and tbh I was always interested but never made it obvious or made a move because I didn’t think he’d feel the same , Anways fast forward now we’ve been dating for a while and it’s going good but I feel like we have left is so late to tell out mutual friends about this and it might make it awkward as we go out a lot together and have a huge friendship group , I don’t want them to feel like we were keeping it a secret but more of it being a cautious things just in case if that makes sense
Only tell your friends when you are ready to stop chilling with them as a couple.
You can’t have your cake and eat it. Either one of you has to cut off the friendship group and make it obvious you guys have separated this friendship- from the new relationship. Also don’t tell other people in the group unless you guys are exclusive. Dating with someone in the friendship group can put immense pressure on either party to make it work and publicising this just adds to the pressure IMO. Also it just invites people to interfere with in the relationship
Only tell them until you’re ready to separate yourself from the group.
Also…it’s way hotter when people don’t know. Can really ignite the chemistry.
How would you approach it when guys from social move to or or ask you out , I prefer meeting guys in real life because of that instant connection and it’s less forced compared to social , I feel like it would be sooo awks too because it straight away on a more serious vibe if you know I mean
If I was single and someone ‘moved to me’ on social media, it wouldn’t take it as he wants to get to know me romantically, I’d personally treat it as if one of my twitter mutuals dm’d me. But if we happen to keep the conversation going.. then in my mind it could lead to somewhere. I feel like thats how you should treat it. No pressure and let it be like you’re just getting to know your friend, until it becomes obvious both of you really like and want to get to know each other.