I’m 19F. I wasn’t bad at school when I was younger, I never really used to study at home that much or anything, but I still did well. But, of course, when I got older the work started getting harder and I still didn’t study. I didn’t understand that I needed to but tried to get my way through. I have failed school but I enrolled in a different one to try to get back on track. It’s difficult and disappointing but I brought it all on myself. I want to change and I’m trying to change and become someone who studies and works hard. I am actually behind “the schedule” in life, I am not in or close to attending a college/uni. Sometimes, I feel dejected when I think about how behind I’ve fallen. I always wanted to make my Hooyo proud, really. May Allah grant her Jannahtul Firdaus.
Unfortunately, all of my elder siblings are doing worse than I am. I really do not want to be like them, they have given me a perfect example of everything I don’t want to be. I am only afraid that I will eventually become like them. I also think about how I can’t ever get married if I am so unaccomplished. Who wants to marry someone like that? Even I would be embarrassed but again, I did this to myself and have only myself to blame. I am studying now to get to where I want (academically and professionally) but I could fail again or take even longer. Or am I just stupid. Allah protect us all from incompetency.
One of my siblings has health issues, and although is always being cared for (by my mother mostly, or me when I am not at school) speaks so rudely, has terrible manners, doesn’t care for people’s feelings when talking and honestly at times seems so ungrateful and blind to the situation. One is in prison and another is just an ciyaal suuq that could be going to prison in the future. Illahi ha ka badbaadiyo. They mainly have disgusting behaviour and manners. Maybe even I am that way, which is exactly what I’m running from.
At the same time, I am trying to help my elder siblings stop what they are doing and to change for the better and even to think about the akhirah. Not everything is in this dunya but they seem so invested in this world and care more for their friends than their family. It is like family never meant anything to them, it used to mean something to me. What they are doing to themselves is self-destructive and upsetting for my dearest Hooyo. She only wanted the best for us. When I look at myself and my siblings, I can only see disappointments. Trying to persuade these siblings of mine is like trying to move a building with my two hands, am I speaking to deaf ears? My father is doing nothing and doesn’t want to help them, other than the sibling with health issues. I only met my father when I was older because when my parents divorced I was a child. He never made an effort to come see us, but now that we are older, we talk sometimes. Not to bash but the phrase “Like father, like son” has NEVER been so true, I see it with my own eyes.
At the end of the day, I know I have so many good things and I wish never to forget to say Alhamdulillah, All Praise is to Allah, and it is true I have so many good things. I can see it, Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. I still have opportunity, I believe and even if I don’t succeed, I will if Allah is pleased with me. I am learning more and more about my deen and I pray to Allah for the sake of my family.
Well, thanks for letting me put this in words and into the world.
We have no control over who our family is. Unlike friends and lovers who we include in our lives voluntarily, family is just a matter of coincidence. Of course most of us love our family unconditionally, but that doesn’t necessarily mean we like everything about them. And sometimes the older siblings who are meant to set examples for you and be responsible, are a constant reminder of everything you don’t want to be.
See the blessing in having people make mistakes before you, that way you get to learn from them and do things the proper way. Can’t tell you how many times I wished my older siblings would pick up some of the heavy lifting so I could have some respite, but sometimes people have their own battles going on and you are the one left to be the family hero. It is what it is. I know its overwhelming but try see the good in it. When you are made to be responsible from early, without even realising subconsciously you make better decisions for yourself and your future.
Focus on bettering yourself, use these people as a reminder to get your shit together. You see how they ended up, it’ll be you next if you don’t move forward. Motivate yourself, do it differently this time. And don’t think you’ll see success any time soon. This is a marathon not a race, at the end of the day you just have to keep going. When you fall short sometimes, take a step back and rejuvenate. But make sure you get back up and keep going. Reminding yourself that you’re doing this to make your parents proud will push you so much.
Forget about these people, because they are just going to keep disappointing you.
Anon
4 years ago
Hi ladies, I need help. I’ve been talking to this guy for 7 months now and we’re both clear we want to get married but once we’re ready so we’re preparing mentally and everything and getting to know if we’re truly meant to be. And this guy ticks all the boxes he’s honestly the best any girl could ask for. We make a lot of banter and he makes jokes about not paying me any Mehr and not gifting me anything and Ngl I found it funny but a part of my worries he really isn’t going to pay any Mehr or gift me anything like gold or anything. I understand Mehr is a gift and you should not demand anything or feel obligated to get what you ask for but I’m slightly worried because who wouldn’t want nice thing to begin their marriage. I’m the kind of person that loves gifting people thing so maybe that’s why it’s a big deal to me? Idk pls tell me if I’m looking too into it and should stay silent or if I should say something. Thanks again and can’t wait for the reply
7 months in he sound be dying to spoil you, or if he can’t, at least give you promises of those things. Not joking about giving you nothing? I feel like he’s testing to see your reaction and how you will respond. He wants to know ‘do I have to do the most?’.
That is really concerning. He want’s to be in a lazy relationship where nothing is expected from him. This is absolutely a big deal and I would have called him out and made him feel embarrassed. This should be the time he’s wooing you, trying to impress you. This though is not it. Right now he’s just testing to see if you are low maintenance.
Anon
4 years ago
Salaam, I have been married for 4 years and have a toddler but through the years there are things my husband has done which I tried for many years to put past me but these habits have made me despise him (he gets his mum involved in every little petty disagreement we have, not once does he help or bond with our daughter, and he is constantly putting me down because I prioritise being a mother before my job.We are both still so young (I’m 23 and he is 22) I just feel like our relationship has ran it’s course and maybe we would be better off separate. I just need some guidance on what to do… I feel trapped.
He is young, there is still much to learn for him and he isn’t a man yet. He’s a boy pretending to be a man. You though have had to grow up because you’re a mother, whereas for him, he isn’t there yet. That’s the reality of it. He is not ready to be the kind of man or father you need him to be. So now you gotta ask yourself, are you willing to work things out or are you willing to cut ties.
Marriage is not easy. Unfortunately, you signed up for the hardest task yet. Getting married at 18 to a 19 year old was bound to be tough, now add a baby into the mix. You’re bound to have moments like this where it feels like you both have outgrown each other. But that’s because you are literally growing up and becoming different people. Some people turn out for the worst.
My thing is, whilst everything else is fixable, if I see you being a horrible dad to our daughter, that is really it for me. Because how people can treat and disregard their own, nothing can stop you from doing the same to me. When you’re not a good father, you stand for nothing. You don’t have principle. Nothing.
You’re still young, if you know this isn’t right for you, don’t waste your time trying to fix a broken record. It might be harder for you to get back onto your own feet, so get a job. If you do want to leave, don’t do it straight away. Make sure theres something to fall back on
Anon
4 years ago
Hello sisters! First and foremost, thanks for creating this platform, it has definitely shown me that I’m not the only one going through it.
I’ve been in a tumultuous marriage for 3 years now and have one question, What should one do if they discover their SO is battling a porn addiction and often utilizes apps to look at revealing pics of women? This addiction has also effected our intimacy because I believe he prefers the fake stuff over the real thing. Unfortunately, this has awakened some insecurities within me. I discovered this at the very start of the marriage but stayed hoping there would be change but it hasn’t happened yet. We have no children as of yet. Aside from that, he’s a good man and a good provider. I wonder if other sisters are dealing with something similar and how they cope with it.
Ultimately your husband has to understand what he is doing and how it is affecting him, you, and the family. He may not view what he is doing as wrong. Some men have a view that only penis in vagina is cheating. But after many exposures to porn, his brain changes. It begins to think it’s natural for him to desire many different partners. It is affecting your marriage and he needs to recognise this. I also know that for addictions, you need professional help. Most men don’t even want to seek help for their mental health, so I’m even more less inclined your husband will seek help for his porn addiction.
You have to be selfish here, if it didn’t change then, when will it change? When you have kids, gain a bit of weight, he will be back on that website looking at naked women again. Sometimes you have to come to a decision within yourself and accept sometimes people don’t want to change, and you will just waste time trying to force them. Something has got to give.
You have a really tough choice to make but you need to do whats best for you, give him an opportunity to fix himself but if he doesn’t want to, you are really only left with one choice.
Anon
4 years ago
I cut this guy off after a couple weeks of talking to him. I saw him follow two other another girl and definitely sure be dm’d them. He’s not in a relationship with me and it’s early so I can’t really be mad. But I am mad. How can I talk to somebody that isn’t talking to me alone. Should I communicate that. But then I also believe it what will be will be if he liked me enough after a couple weeks he would not dm other people. Should I not be too hard on him or be hard on him
Girl no, you guys are not together. The reality is, he can talk to whoever the hell he wants. You guys are not together. Like you said yourself, clearly he doesn’t like you enough if he can just talk to other people. Charge it to the game my friend, there will be others.
Anon
4 years ago
My husband and I want to wait a few more years till we have kids. I don’t wanna mess up my hormones with birth control and he refuses to wear a condom. We don’t want to risk with the pull out method. I resent that he’d rather I suffer through the crazy side effects of hormonal bc or iud rather than wrap his willy. Help
Pull out methods will work until you get pregnant. And you won’t know when that day is. If you are not ready for a random baby, the only way is CONTRACEPTION.
Go speak to your nurse at the local sexual health clinic, some contraceptions have less side affects and aren’t hormonal. Condoms is a bit unrealistic if you’re married and they are not going to be available all the time, so unfortunately you need a more reliable option.
Anon
4 years ago
You said this one thing a while back something like stop being a passenger in your life and I wish I heard it sooner. I’ve just been having life happen to me and making it work instead of choicing it for me. So many thing I could but anyways thanks you for little things like that insha Allah khair and barakah and blessings come your way because I needed to heard it
I’ve heard that if you are a girl who doesn’t really dress up or have a nice soft voice or weak makeup guys think you are low maintenance and you are likely to just invite broke boys into your life. Should I know do a bit more just to avoid niggas thinking low maintainence
Watch how men treat women they are not attracted to, you will see it for yourself. And then it gets worse when they realise you have no standards. That’s when they will really give you bottom of the barrel treatment.
Theres a reason why pretty privilege exists, its because men are dumb as hell but they’ll do anything for women they think are attractive and have high standards. It’s messed up but its the truth
Anon
4 years ago
I’m talking to a guy right now this is my first ever time properly talking to a guy and going on dates been on 2 dates so far im 21 turning 22 and he just turned 27. He is a really nice guy hes kind , respectful, religious educated and financially stable with a good job but the problem is he wants to be married by this year And has been saying this both times I’ve met him I told him already i don’t want to get married soon ideally by 23 minimum , I feel like his focus is marriage is marriage only Like where’s building the trust etc getting to know each other , he doesn’t even know meeee Like he just wants to be married that makes me feel like shit he just wants to be married for the sake of it I want someone to marry me or be with me for me he also works 6 days a week and we hardly even talk on text , I don’t know if I should dead it off but I don’t want to regret it
This man just wants a wife, good on you for noticing. He is working hard and wants someone to come back to, preferably a maid.
How I know this? Well he hasn’t gotten to even know you, why does he want to get married? Shouldn’t he want to be married to the love of his life? His soulmate? Nope. He just wants to get married because the time is right for it. Some men really do be marrying out of convenience. I would end things. You both are clearly not on the same BOOK let alone same page. Syonara homie
Anon
4 years ago
Hi ladies,
My dilemma consist is of one major insecurity. I have teeth anxiety. I’m constantly worried about them. I’ve had quite a bit of dental work: fillings, root canal and even a dental implant. I’ve had Invisalign and bonding also but I still think my teeth are discoloured/stained and ugly. I worry that I may never find happiness and love because of this deeply rooted insecurity. Growing up, I didn’t take good care of them and unfortunately you can’t reverse damages. I am vigilant now with going to the dentist etc but my diet is still very poor – mainly consisting of sugary foods which isn’t helping. I still have some dental pains and worry that it will mean I will lose more teeth. I’ve never shared these concerns before – not even with my therapist! I know how ridiculous it may come across but insecurities are very real and this flaw of mine stands out far too much to me. Everyone knows that it’s the smile that people first notice. I zoom into every picture of myself and cringe. When I see people smiling care free with brilliantly pearly teeth I think mashallah that must be nice. I’m in my late twenties now and yh I’ve dated a couple of guys and one actually made a comment about my teeth. Sometimes I can’t wait to just simply die and be done with this life so I can get away from the shame that I feel. I’m not looking for reassurance but rather confirmation that I’m not alone in this? Thank you for reading x
Don’t say that, regardless this is fixable. Yes you might have fucked up your teeth but we are living in the 21st century now, there are solutions.
I’m not a dentist but I know there are options, maybe consider veneers? It might be costly but it will be worth it, especially if it helps you too feel more confident. I would honestly look into it, even more so if I tried everything like yourself.
I’m 19F. I wasn’t bad at school when I was younger, I never really used to study at home that much or anything, but I still did well. But, of course, when I got older the work started getting harder and I still didn’t study. I didn’t understand that I needed to but tried to get my way through. I have failed school but I enrolled in a different one to try to get back on track. It’s difficult and disappointing but I brought it all on myself. I want to change and I’m trying to change and become someone who studies and works hard. I am actually behind “the schedule” in life, I am not in or close to attending a college/uni. Sometimes, I feel dejected when I think about how behind I’ve fallen. I always wanted to make my Hooyo proud, really. May Allah grant her Jannahtul Firdaus.
Unfortunately, all of my elder siblings are doing worse than I am. I really do not want to be like them, they have given me a perfect example of everything I don’t want to be. I am only afraid that I will eventually become like them. I also think about how I can’t ever get married if I am so unaccomplished. Who wants to marry someone like that? Even I would be embarrassed but again, I did this to myself and have only myself to blame. I am studying now to get to where I want (academically and professionally) but I could fail again or take even longer. Or am I just stupid. Allah protect us all from incompetency.
One of my siblings has health issues, and although is always being cared for (by my mother mostly, or me when I am not at school) speaks so rudely, has terrible manners, doesn’t care for people’s feelings when talking and honestly at times seems so ungrateful and blind to the situation. One is in prison and another is just an ciyaal suuq that could be going to prison in the future. Illahi ha ka badbaadiyo. They mainly have disgusting behaviour and manners. Maybe even I am that way, which is exactly what I’m running from.
At the same time, I am trying to help my elder siblings stop what they are doing and to change for the better and even to think about the akhirah. Not everything is in this dunya but they seem so invested in this world and care more for their friends than their family. It is like family never meant anything to them, it used to mean something to me. What they are doing to themselves is self-destructive and upsetting for my dearest Hooyo. She only wanted the best for us. When I look at myself and my siblings, I can only see disappointments. Trying to persuade these siblings of mine is like trying to move a building with my two hands, am I speaking to deaf ears? My father is doing nothing and doesn’t want to help them, other than the sibling with health issues. I only met my father when I was older because when my parents divorced I was a child. He never made an effort to come see us, but now that we are older, we talk sometimes. Not to bash but the phrase “Like father, like son” has NEVER been so true, I see it with my own eyes.
At the end of the day, I know I have so many good things and I wish never to forget to say Alhamdulillah, All Praise is to Allah, and it is true I have so many good things. I can see it, Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. I still have opportunity, I believe and even if I don’t succeed, I will if Allah is pleased with me. I am learning more and more about my deen and I pray to Allah for the sake of my family.
Well, thanks for letting me put this in words and into the world.
We have no control over who our family is. Unlike friends and lovers who we include in our lives voluntarily, family is just a matter of coincidence. Of course most of us love our family unconditionally, but that doesn’t necessarily mean we like everything about them. And sometimes the older siblings who are meant to set examples for you and be responsible, are a constant reminder of everything you don’t want to be.
See the blessing in having people make mistakes before you, that way you get to learn from them and do things the proper way. Can’t tell you how many times I wished my older siblings would pick up some of the heavy lifting so I could have some respite, but sometimes people have their own battles going on and you are the one left to be the family hero. It is what it is. I know its overwhelming but try see the good in it. When you are made to be responsible from early, without even realising subconsciously you make better decisions for yourself and your future.
Focus on bettering yourself, use these people as a reminder to get your shit together. You see how they ended up, it’ll be you next if you don’t move forward. Motivate yourself, do it differently this time. And don’t think you’ll see success any time soon. This is a marathon not a race, at the end of the day you just have to keep going. When you fall short sometimes, take a step back and rejuvenate. But make sure you get back up and keep going. Reminding yourself that you’re doing this to make your parents proud will push you so much.
Forget about these people, because they are just going to keep disappointing you.
Hi ladies, I need help. I’ve been talking to this guy for 7 months now and we’re both clear we want to get married but once we’re ready so we’re preparing mentally and everything and getting to know if we’re truly meant to be. And this guy ticks all the boxes he’s honestly the best any girl could ask for. We make a lot of banter and he makes jokes about not paying me any Mehr and not gifting me anything and Ngl I found it funny but a part of my worries he really isn’t going to pay any Mehr or gift me anything like gold or anything. I understand Mehr is a gift and you should not demand anything or feel obligated to get what you ask for but I’m slightly worried because who wouldn’t want nice thing to begin their marriage. I’m the kind of person that loves gifting people thing so maybe that’s why it’s a big deal to me? Idk pls tell me if I’m looking too into it and should stay silent or if I should say something. Thanks again and can’t wait for the reply
Red flag.
7 months in he sound be dying to spoil you, or if he can’t, at least give you promises of those things. Not joking about giving you nothing? I feel like he’s testing to see your reaction and how you will respond. He wants to know ‘do I have to do the most?’.
That is really concerning. He want’s to be in a lazy relationship where nothing is expected from him. This is absolutely a big deal and I would have called him out and made him feel embarrassed. This should be the time he’s wooing you, trying to impress you. This though is not it. Right now he’s just testing to see if you are low maintenance.
Salaam, I have been married for 4 years and have a toddler but through the years there are things my husband has done which I tried for many years to put past me but these habits have made me despise him (he gets his mum involved in every little petty disagreement we have, not once does he help or bond with our daughter, and he is constantly putting me down because I prioritise being a mother before my job.We are both still so young (I’m 23 and he is 22) I just feel like our relationship has ran it’s course and maybe we would be better off separate. I just need some guidance on what to do… I feel trapped.
He is young, there is still much to learn for him and he isn’t a man yet. He’s a boy pretending to be a man. You though have had to grow up because you’re a mother, whereas for him, he isn’t there yet. That’s the reality of it. He is not ready to be the kind of man or father you need him to be. So now you gotta ask yourself, are you willing to work things out or are you willing to cut ties.
Marriage is not easy. Unfortunately, you signed up for the hardest task yet. Getting married at 18 to a 19 year old was bound to be tough, now add a baby into the mix. You’re bound to have moments like this where it feels like you both have outgrown each other. But that’s because you are literally growing up and becoming different people. Some people turn out for the worst.
My thing is, whilst everything else is fixable, if I see you being a horrible dad to our daughter, that is really it for me. Because how people can treat and disregard their own, nothing can stop you from doing the same to me. When you’re not a good father, you stand for nothing. You don’t have principle. Nothing.
You’re still young, if you know this isn’t right for you, don’t waste your time trying to fix a broken record. It might be harder for you to get back onto your own feet, so get a job. If you do want to leave, don’t do it straight away. Make sure theres something to fall back on
Hello sisters! First and foremost, thanks for creating this platform, it has definitely shown me that I’m not the only one going through it.
I’ve been in a tumultuous marriage for 3 years now and have one question, What should one do if they discover their SO is battling a porn addiction and often utilizes apps to look at revealing pics of women? This addiction has also effected our intimacy because I believe he prefers the fake stuff over the real thing. Unfortunately, this has awakened some insecurities within me. I discovered this at the very start of the marriage but stayed hoping there would be change but it hasn’t happened yet. We have no children as of yet. Aside from that, he’s a good man and a good provider. I wonder if other sisters are dealing with something similar and how they cope with it.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this.
Ultimately your husband has to understand what he is doing and how it is affecting him, you, and the family. He may not view what he is doing as wrong. Some men have a view that only penis in vagina is cheating. But after many exposures to porn, his brain changes. It begins to think it’s natural for him to desire many different partners. It is affecting your marriage and he needs to recognise this. I also know that for addictions, you need professional help. Most men don’t even want to seek help for their mental health, so I’m even more less inclined your husband will seek help for his porn addiction.
You have to be selfish here, if it didn’t change then, when will it change? When you have kids, gain a bit of weight, he will be back on that website looking at naked women again. Sometimes you have to come to a decision within yourself and accept sometimes people don’t want to change, and you will just waste time trying to force them. Something has got to give.
You have a really tough choice to make but you need to do whats best for you, give him an opportunity to fix himself but if he doesn’t want to, you are really only left with one choice.
I cut this guy off after a couple weeks of talking to him. I saw him follow two other another girl and definitely sure be dm’d them. He’s not in a relationship with me and it’s early so I can’t really be mad. But I am mad. How can I talk to somebody that isn’t talking to me alone. Should I communicate that. But then I also believe it what will be will be if he liked me enough after a couple weeks he would not dm other people. Should I not be too hard on him or be hard on him
Girl no, you guys are not together. The reality is, he can talk to whoever the hell he wants. You guys are not together. Like you said yourself, clearly he doesn’t like you enough if he can just talk to other people. Charge it to the game my friend, there will be others.
My husband and I want to wait a few more years till we have kids. I don’t wanna mess up my hormones with birth control and he refuses to wear a condom. We don’t want to risk with the pull out method. I resent that he’d rather I suffer through the crazy side effects of hormonal bc or iud rather than wrap his willy. Help
Pull out methods will work until you get pregnant. And you won’t know when that day is. If you are not ready for a random baby, the only way is CONTRACEPTION.
Go speak to your nurse at the local sexual health clinic, some contraceptions have less side affects and aren’t hormonal. Condoms is a bit unrealistic if you’re married and they are not going to be available all the time, so unfortunately you need a more reliable option.
You said this one thing a while back something like stop being a passenger in your life and I wish I heard it sooner. I’ve just been having life happen to me and making it work instead of choicing it for me. So many thing I could but anyways thanks you for little things like that insha Allah khair and barakah and blessings come your way because I needed to heard it
🙂 Thank you, ameen. I’m proud of you girl!
I’ve heard that if you are a girl who doesn’t really dress up or have a nice soft voice or weak makeup guys think you are low maintenance and you are likely to just invite broke boys into your life. Should I know do a bit more just to avoid niggas thinking low maintainence
Unfortunately it’s true.
Watch how men treat women they are not attracted to, you will see it for yourself. And then it gets worse when they realise you have no standards. That’s when they will really give you bottom of the barrel treatment.
Theres a reason why pretty privilege exists, its because men are dumb as hell but they’ll do anything for women they think are attractive and have high standards. It’s messed up but its the truth
I’m talking to a guy right now this is my first ever time properly talking to a guy and going on dates been on 2 dates so far im 21 turning 22 and he just turned 27. He is a really nice guy hes kind , respectful, religious educated and financially stable with a good job but the problem is he wants to be married by this year And has been saying this both times I’ve met him I told him already i don’t want to get married soon ideally by 23 minimum , I feel like his focus is marriage is marriage only Like where’s building the trust etc getting to know each other , he doesn’t even know meeee Like he just wants to be married that makes me feel like shit he just wants to be married for the sake of it I want someone to marry me or be with me for me he also works 6 days a week and we hardly even talk on text , I don’t know if I should dead it off but I don’t want to regret it
This man just wants a wife, good on you for noticing. He is working hard and wants someone to come back to, preferably a maid.
How I know this? Well he hasn’t gotten to even know you, why does he want to get married? Shouldn’t he want to be married to the love of his life? His soulmate? Nope. He just wants to get married because the time is right for it. Some men really do be marrying out of convenience. I would end things. You both are clearly not on the same BOOK let alone same page. Syonara homie
Hi ladies,
My dilemma consist is of one major insecurity. I have teeth anxiety. I’m constantly worried about them. I’ve had quite a bit of dental work: fillings, root canal and even a dental implant. I’ve had Invisalign and bonding also but I still think my teeth are discoloured/stained and ugly. I worry that I may never find happiness and love because of this deeply rooted insecurity. Growing up, I didn’t take good care of them and unfortunately you can’t reverse damages. I am vigilant now with going to the dentist etc but my diet is still very poor – mainly consisting of sugary foods which isn’t helping. I still have some dental pains and worry that it will mean I will lose more teeth. I’ve never shared these concerns before – not even with my therapist! I know how ridiculous it may come across but insecurities are very real and this flaw of mine stands out far too much to me. Everyone knows that it’s the smile that people first notice. I zoom into every picture of myself and cringe. When I see people smiling care free with brilliantly pearly teeth I think mashallah that must be nice. I’m in my late twenties now and yh I’ve dated a couple of guys and one actually made a comment about my teeth. Sometimes I can’t wait to just simply die and be done with this life so I can get away from the shame that I feel. I’m not looking for reassurance but rather confirmation that I’m not alone in this? Thank you for reading x
Don’t say that, regardless this is fixable. Yes you might have fucked up your teeth but we are living in the 21st century now, there are solutions.
I’m not a dentist but I know there are options, maybe consider veneers? It might be costly but it will be worth it, especially if it helps you too feel more confident. I would honestly look into it, even more so if I tried everything like yourself.