Asc ladies! Thank you for giving your time to us sisters! Can I just first start off by saying how obsessed I am with this page. Like straight after work when I come home I be eating my snacks going through this page. May Allah reward you endlessly for sharing your wisdom and advice with us sister.
My dilemma is not a huge one but it’s been playing on my mind. I’m 23 and I haven’t dated much because I’m too shy. I’ve been dating this one guy though for 6 months and he has two kids from a previous marriage. He’s honestly been so lovely to me and I just feel like he gets me. He’s so clued on when it comes to giving me what I need emotionally and really comes through when I need him. Nooooooow the problem is I think my mum and my aunty will actually box me in the face if they found out i wanna marry a guy who has kids loool. The thing is i always knew in my heart I genuinely don’t want kids. I babysit my nephews and nieces and that alone takes up enough energy. So the fact that he already has kids is perfect to me tbh. I don’t want to tell my mum that one of the biggest reasons why I don’t want to have kids is because I saw the toxic marriage she was in with my dad and the sacrifices she made for us. Like my dad was physically abusive and I saw it happen all the time when I was younger. He has a whole other family in Somalia. He stole houses from my mum. Anyway my dad is truly truly a bummm. So I don’t ever want kids or anything like that. Even the idea of marriage makes me sick. I am considering marrying this guy though or at least still date him just to see where it goes but do you think I should let my mum know about me dating this guy? Also should I let my mum know that I’m into guys who already have kids? And sorry one more thing, how do I know for certain that this man doesn’t still love his ex wife seeing as though she gave him something I probably will never give him?
If you are trying to go the long distance with this guy, then you absolutely have to tell your family about his children. Theres no way about it.
I feel like you really you need to be honest with yourself when you’re deciding if this is actually what you want. Even if he had one child, I’d still be like have a second think about it but he has TWO. Are you ready to be a step mum at 23 years old?
Are you ready to deal with the baggage, child support, time being spent with kids as opposed to time spent with you, the drama with the ex, knowing that this man may potentially use his children as an excuse for getting out of a commitment. Can he financially take cake of all his children, you and the baby mum? Because unfortunately, he has to look after her to some degree too. She is the primary carer of his children, he has to keep a roof over her head too. How willing are you to make such big compromises at the tender age of 23??
And the reality is you will never know if he has feelings towards his ex, and no matter what, at some point whilst they are co-parenting, he is going to remember those past feelings. Whether he acts on them or not is a different story.
At 23 years old you shouldn’t have to be a step mum to 2 children.
Anon
3 years ago
Hey girls!
This is just a small dilemma that’s not about relationships.
I want to learn how to drive because not driving in this weather, especially in my 20s, is actually the ghettoooo. Any tips for me to pass my practical and theory first time round? How long do you think it’ll take for me to pass my practical? How long will it take to pass my theory? Do you think I should do automatic or manual? I’m leaning towards automatic because I want my licence fast for summer. Also do you have any good driving instructors you know of?
I passed my theory first time and this is how It went.
Everynight for 2 weeks I would dedicate 30 mins to revising on the DVLA app. If you have an iPad do it on that, but you can also do it on your phone. Repetition is key, that’s how I would usually revise for school and stuff. When you repeat questions enough, its not a matter of you know this, you know it because your brain memorised it for you. And everyday you have to go back on what you learnt so the information stores in your memory. Trust me, repetition method is the way.
I failed my practical first time round because I had a horrible teacher, and he was more focused on chatting me up then actually teaching me. So when I got another one, I passed. Finding a good teacher is key. Driving is not hard when you do automatic. I did automatic and I passed quicker. People will say ah why, one day you might need to drive manual, manual cars are cheaper. To that I say, I am a woman of leisure LOOOL. At no point will I bring myself to drive a manual car, I don’t care if its cheaper, I will pay for convenience. Automatic is so easy, feels like you’re driving a toy. I would rather pay for uber than drive manual, too much of my attention is required and I have heavy feet loool
My instructor doesn’t teach anymore I think but you have to shop around. Check on gumtree, google etc. Theory won’t take you long to learn at all, but practical will take longer. That depends on how many lessons you have etc
Anon
3 years ago
Hey Lula I am in 2 minds about this so let me explain. I’m a 24 year old somali girl and I don’t like wearing the hijab I don’t want to wear it at all don’t have any plans to atm (maybe inshalah in the future when I’m an old lady who knows) the thing is Alhamdulilah I do what is expected of me I pray my prayers and all other obligations & tbf only time I do wear the hijab is to pray during the day aside from that I really don’t like to wear it. This resentment has come from growing up in a super religious household I have Somali parents who never actually taught me about the hijab but rather berated and made me feel like I was some whore who was destined to hell every single time I didn’t wear it, man it was awful and don’t even get me started on the stigma attached to trousers/ jeans. As someone who loves fashion and dressing up I feel as though as a child I was forced to suppress my desire to dress up and wear whatever I wanted (nothing crazy or super revealing just normal casual wear) now that I am older & have freedom over my clothing I have really grown to resent the hijab & don’t like how it looks with any of my outfits. Please don’t get me wrong girls who wear the hijab are beautiful Allhuma barek and I do admire them I just don’t see myself being able to do that. I recently met a guy and he’s a wonderful Somali guy ticks a lot of my boxes but I feel like self sabotaging it because I know that no self respecting Somali guy is going to be okay with a wife who does not cover her hair & the one thing I am terrified about is being married to someone and then it being like my parents home all over agin being dictated on what to wear and not. He’s honestly a gem but I feel as though he deserves someone better than me who actually wears hijab. It’s gotten so bad I hate/ avoid talking to Muslim men because I know how misogynistic they can be & not very accepting. I really hate this because I have so much love for Allah and Islam it’s beautiful but the hijab is the one thing I genuinely struggle so badly with. I feel as though I’m not accepted as a proper Muslim no matter how hard I try because of this.
I am one of those people who struggle with hijab a lot. I know one day I’m just gonna say fuck it and just do it and not look back inshallah. I used to struggle a lot because I would compare myself to other girls who looked so beautiful wearing their hijab whereas I knew I looked way better without it. But I think as you grow, you realise that comparing yourself to others is useless and hijab is just something we have to do regardless of how we look in it. Also I hated how much people expected of you when you wore the hijab. Any small fault you’d do would suddenly make you unworthy. Obviously that’s shaytaan doing that to you. What was worse tho was very rarely did I experience people more knowledgeable than me who would encourage me to wear the hijab. Instead it they were on a gatekeeping flex like you can’t sit with us. Unfortunately, people are very judgemental which is why I prefer doing some of my spiritual journeys alone.
I also came to do the conclusion that I will do it when I’m ready because that’s when it will stick. If I do it because other people are forcing me or I feel like I’m the one left out, give me a few months and it’ll probably come right off again. When I do something for me is when I stick with it. So only wear it when you are ready. Remember the importance of a middle ground, if you push yourself too hard you may end up going in the opposite direction. At the same time don’t just give up all together. Keep making steps towards your goal and pray about it as much as possible. The intention of ultimately wearing it when it is feasible for you is most important. Inshallah you will find it become easier and easier with time.
Also don’t worry about what men will think of you, right now that’s not important. What matters though is making sure you change your relationship & attitude towards the hijab, and start when you feel like you’re ready.
Anon
3 years ago
Heyy, I have this dilemma which in the past has caused me resentment. When your freinds/acquaintance makes plans but never follow through or just agree to meet on a certain day but just let it slide, and when you ask them about it they say they forgot and are busy. What do you do? Months later they will reach out to make plans but just ghost
People are busy. And everyone has forgotten what its like to be outside again. Wallahi its very hard to follow up on motives (for me anyway) and its not because I’m a bad friend, Its just very hard to break a bad habit.
Speak to your friends, and let them know that it bothers you. But extend them grace. Try to meet up every month doing small things first. Even a car ride or walk down riverside. Me and my friends do this often.
Anon
3 years ago
Hey huns hope you’re well! So at my big age of 22 I’ve never spoken to a guy before and due to my introverted nature… I have never been in situations where I can meet guys. By this I mean, I don’t post on socials so theres no chance of ever getting a dm.. I hardly go out so again theres no chance of meeting anyone out. So I’ve resorted to a cringy option which is… muzmatch. I downloaded the app last night with the only nice picture I have of myself as my profile picture… but ofc blurred. I’ve got quite a few matches and have revealed my picture to them only individually. But now is where it gets hard… idk how to talk to people. What sort of questions do I ask to show that I’m serious about getting to know someone but then again not too forward? What do I say after the Hi’s and the How are you’s? How do I word my questions like what topics do we talk about, idek where to start!
How do I transition from this app and get him to ask for my number so we can text, like what hints can I drop. I’m honestly so lost and confused about all of this.
You need to binge watch The Bachelorette and The Bachelor. Learn how to flirt whilst still being able to read the room. You’re just out of practice and you need to see how you’re able to read certain cues and how to respond to them.
Anon
3 years ago
I am about to turn 22 and I have never had a man show any sort of romantic interest in me in my life. I feel like a kid inside and if I am going to be honest, I don’t think that I am very pretty or desirable. I am overweight and not pretty (gosh, I sound like such a pick-me but these are honestly deep-rooted issues). I also feel like since I do not love myself I should not be seeking out love because I will be setting myself up for failure. How can you fall in love when you think that you don’t deserve it? I am not searching for marriage or even male validation. I just want to know if love is out there for me, someday. Is it?
When you finally accept yourself and you take yourself for who you are, nothing can stop you. And it makes you more attractive. I was talking about this to my friends when I started watch Euphoria. That Kat girl, the second she become more confident with herself and how she dressed, she stopped being invisible (outside of the sexual stuff of course). The point is more people are drawn to you when you are confident. It gives you a charismatic aura that is desirable. You are naturally fun and carefree everyone just wants to be around you.
Work on your confidence before you look for anything else. Because that really comes afterwards. Change all the things you don’t like about yourself. Get in the gym, buy more fitted clothes, start dressing up etc.
Anon
3 years ago
I have been insecure about my skin for years, when I look at Instagram or on t.v you see girls with super
smooth skin. I have what they call KP Keratosis pilaris, which is basically small bumps on my legs and back arms. I am so insecure about it to the point where I feel like if I get married all I will be thinking about is how not smooth my skin is. Do you think a man would want a girl with smooth skin?
Hoorta no ones skin is completely smooth 24/7. Generally when you’re a woman, with hormones, make up etc you are bound to have a little bumps here and there. I have relatively good skin but if you look closely, I be having small rashes. Obviously in your case its a bit different but still, I genuinely believe men don’t care about anything. I think us girls hype them up in our head but in reality they are very low maintenance themselves. Before I had my nikkah the older women in my family used to tell me all the time, like I used to get worried about my hair not be done 24/7, waking up with morning breath and they all told me the same thing. MEN DON’T CARE!
Anon
3 years ago
Hi, asc
Newly married and I have trust issues. I have access to my husband’s phone and I’m contemplating on deleting every girl from his Snapchat. I confronted him earlier, but His response is “my intention is only to look through their story” and he is right somehow, I’ve never seen any dialogue cause I check his phone when he leaves the room. He doesn’t see any issue with girls sending him pictures and videos of them with make up and filter. I brought up how it can hurt our marriage in the future, even if he is not entertaining the sisters now, it may come a day where the sheytaan gets into his mind. Please advise me as your own sister in Islam
Your concerns are justified, whilst he is okay now, it still leaves an opportunity for there to be a situation in the future.
Ultimately, you should have made him do this before you guys got married, that should have been a standard you set early. Because now this behavior has crept into your marriage and he doesn’t see a problem with it. Part of me even thinks, if you put your foot down, he is only going to want it more and be more secretive. Whilst you know something is not going on now, sometimes when you accuse someone enough, it might lead them to do the thing you’re accusing them of.
If I was in this situation, I would stack up on contraception. Numbero uno because I will not bring a baby into this situation. I would then communicate this issue but in a smart way.
“Hey babe, I’ve told you about this issue before and even though I trust you, I don’t think its best to introduce this kind of behavior in our marriage. We’re newly married and its time we start setting boundaries with outsiders and to ourselves. Subconsciously I might see you doing stuff like this and then in the future I might start having male friendships myself.”
He’s probably gonna be like huh what
Then you just say “I say that because you are really the one that leads this relationship here, you set the tone for what’s acceptable or not. Right now you’re not really doing a job and you’re blurring the lines for me. How can I follow when you yourself are not setting a good enough example?”
When you let a man know you have absolute no faith in their leadership skills, you’re hitting them where it hurts.
Anon
3 years ago
Birth control girlllllllll –
Go to local pharmacy and they provide full service and health check
If you feel uncomfortable the ones in your local area go to different one and speak/ask for female pharmacist. There’s a sexual clinic too in Central that give good advice too and you request a female clincian too
Before your on a birth control a full health will be done free of charge. Any type of treatment is free of charge because of nhs.
BTW- girls choose you and pick you at the end of day because no will !
Asc ladies! Thank you for giving your time to us sisters! Can I just first start off by saying how obsessed I am with this page. Like straight after work when I come home I be eating my snacks going through this page. May Allah reward you endlessly for sharing your wisdom and advice with us sister.
My dilemma is not a huge one but it’s been playing on my mind. I’m 23 and I haven’t dated much because I’m too shy. I’ve been dating this one guy though for 6 months and he has two kids from a previous marriage. He’s honestly been so lovely to me and I just feel like he gets me. He’s so clued on when it comes to giving me what I need emotionally and really comes through when I need him. Nooooooow the problem is I think my mum and my aunty will actually box me in the face if they found out i wanna marry a guy who has kids loool. The thing is i always knew in my heart I genuinely don’t want kids. I babysit my nephews and nieces and that alone takes up enough energy. So the fact that he already has kids is perfect to me tbh. I don’t want to tell my mum that one of the biggest reasons why I don’t want to have kids is because I saw the toxic marriage she was in with my dad and the sacrifices she made for us. Like my dad was physically abusive and I saw it happen all the time when I was younger. He has a whole other family in Somalia. He stole houses from my mum. Anyway my dad is truly truly a bummm. So I don’t ever want kids or anything like that. Even the idea of marriage makes me sick. I am considering marrying this guy though or at least still date him just to see where it goes but do you think I should let my mum know about me dating this guy? Also should I let my mum know that I’m into guys who already have kids? And sorry one more thing, how do I know for certain that this man doesn’t still love his ex wife seeing as though she gave him something I probably will never give him?
If you are trying to go the long distance with this guy, then you absolutely have to tell your family about his children. Theres no way about it.
I feel like you really you need to be honest with yourself when you’re deciding if this is actually what you want. Even if he had one child, I’d still be like have a second think about it but he has TWO. Are you ready to be a step mum at 23 years old?
Are you ready to deal with the baggage, child support, time being spent with kids as opposed to time spent with you, the drama with the ex, knowing that this man may potentially use his children as an excuse for getting out of a commitment. Can he financially take cake of all his children, you and the baby mum? Because unfortunately, he has to look after her to some degree too. She is the primary carer of his children, he has to keep a roof over her head too. How willing are you to make such big compromises at the tender age of 23??
And the reality is you will never know if he has feelings towards his ex, and no matter what, at some point whilst they are co-parenting, he is going to remember those past feelings. Whether he acts on them or not is a different story.
At 23 years old you shouldn’t have to be a step mum to 2 children.
Hey girls!
This is just a small dilemma that’s not about relationships.
I want to learn how to drive because not driving in this weather, especially in my 20s, is actually the ghettoooo. Any tips for me to pass my practical and theory first time round? How long do you think it’ll take for me to pass my practical? How long will it take to pass my theory? Do you think I should do automatic or manual? I’m leaning towards automatic because I want my licence fast for summer. Also do you have any good driving instructors you know of?
I passed my theory first time and this is how It went.
Everynight for 2 weeks I would dedicate 30 mins to revising on the DVLA app. If you have an iPad do it on that, but you can also do it on your phone. Repetition is key, that’s how I would usually revise for school and stuff. When you repeat questions enough, its not a matter of you know this, you know it because your brain memorised it for you. And everyday you have to go back on what you learnt so the information stores in your memory. Trust me, repetition method is the way.
I failed my practical first time round because I had a horrible teacher, and he was more focused on chatting me up then actually teaching me. So when I got another one, I passed. Finding a good teacher is key. Driving is not hard when you do automatic. I did automatic and I passed quicker. People will say ah why, one day you might need to drive manual, manual cars are cheaper. To that I say, I am a woman of leisure LOOOL. At no point will I bring myself to drive a manual car, I don’t care if its cheaper, I will pay for convenience. Automatic is so easy, feels like you’re driving a toy. I would rather pay for uber than drive manual, too much of my attention is required and I have heavy feet loool
My instructor doesn’t teach anymore I think but you have to shop around. Check on gumtree, google etc. Theory won’t take you long to learn at all, but practical will take longer. That depends on how many lessons you have etc
Hey Lula I am in 2 minds about this so let me explain. I’m a 24 year old somali girl and I don’t like wearing the hijab I don’t want to wear it at all don’t have any plans to atm (maybe inshalah in the future when I’m an old lady who knows) the thing is Alhamdulilah I do what is expected of me I pray my prayers and all other obligations & tbf only time I do wear the hijab is to pray during the day aside from that I really don’t like to wear it. This resentment has come from growing up in a super religious household I have Somali parents who never actually taught me about the hijab but rather berated and made me feel like I was some whore who was destined to hell every single time I didn’t wear it, man it was awful and don’t even get me started on the stigma attached to trousers/ jeans. As someone who loves fashion and dressing up I feel as though as a child I was forced to suppress my desire to dress up and wear whatever I wanted (nothing crazy or super revealing just normal casual wear) now that I am older & have freedom over my clothing I have really grown to resent the hijab & don’t like how it looks with any of my outfits. Please don’t get me wrong girls who wear the hijab are beautiful Allhuma barek and I do admire them I just don’t see myself being able to do that. I recently met a guy and he’s a wonderful Somali guy ticks a lot of my boxes but I feel like self sabotaging it because I know that no self respecting Somali guy is going to be okay with a wife who does not cover her hair & the one thing I am terrified about is being married to someone and then it being like my parents home all over agin being dictated on what to wear and not. He’s honestly a gem but I feel as though he deserves someone better than me who actually wears hijab. It’s gotten so bad I hate/ avoid talking to Muslim men because I know how misogynistic they can be & not very accepting. I really hate this because I have so much love for Allah and Islam it’s beautiful but the hijab is the one thing I genuinely struggle so badly with. I feel as though I’m not accepted as a proper Muslim no matter how hard I try because of this.
I am one of those people who struggle with hijab a lot. I know one day I’m just gonna say fuck it and just do it and not look back inshallah. I used to struggle a lot because I would compare myself to other girls who looked so beautiful wearing their hijab whereas I knew I looked way better without it. But I think as you grow, you realise that comparing yourself to others is useless and hijab is just something we have to do regardless of how we look in it. Also I hated how much people expected of you when you wore the hijab. Any small fault you’d do would suddenly make you unworthy. Obviously that’s shaytaan doing that to you. What was worse tho was very rarely did I experience people more knowledgeable than me who would encourage me to wear the hijab. Instead it they were on a gatekeeping flex like you can’t sit with us. Unfortunately, people are very judgemental which is why I prefer doing some of my spiritual journeys alone.
I also came to do the conclusion that I will do it when I’m ready because that’s when it will stick. If I do it because other people are forcing me or I feel like I’m the one left out, give me a few months and it’ll probably come right off again. When I do something for me is when I stick with it. So only wear it when you are ready. Remember the importance of a middle ground, if you push yourself too hard you may end up going in the opposite direction. At the same time don’t just give up all together. Keep making steps towards your goal and pray about it as much as possible. The intention of ultimately wearing it when it is feasible for you is most important. Inshallah you will find it become easier and easier with time.
Also don’t worry about what men will think of you, right now that’s not important. What matters though is making sure you change your relationship & attitude towards the hijab, and start when you feel like you’re ready.
Heyy, I have this dilemma which in the past has caused me resentment. When your freinds/acquaintance makes plans but never follow through or just agree to meet on a certain day but just let it slide, and when you ask them about it they say they forgot and are busy. What do you do? Months later they will reach out to make plans but just ghost
People are busy. And everyone has forgotten what its like to be outside again. Wallahi its very hard to follow up on motives (for me anyway) and its not because I’m a bad friend, Its just very hard to break a bad habit.
Speak to your friends, and let them know that it bothers you. But extend them grace. Try to meet up every month doing small things first. Even a car ride or walk down riverside. Me and my friends do this often.
Hey huns hope you’re well! So at my big age of 22 I’ve never spoken to a guy before and due to my introverted nature… I have never been in situations where I can meet guys. By this I mean, I don’t post on socials so theres no chance of ever getting a dm.. I hardly go out so again theres no chance of meeting anyone out. So I’ve resorted to a cringy option which is… muzmatch. I downloaded the app last night with the only nice picture I have of myself as my profile picture… but ofc blurred. I’ve got quite a few matches and have revealed my picture to them only individually. But now is where it gets hard… idk how to talk to people. What sort of questions do I ask to show that I’m serious about getting to know someone but then again not too forward? What do I say after the Hi’s and the How are you’s? How do I word my questions like what topics do we talk about, idek where to start!
How do I transition from this app and get him to ask for my number so we can text, like what hints can I drop. I’m honestly so lost and confused about all of this.
You need to binge watch The Bachelorette and The Bachelor. Learn how to flirt whilst still being able to read the room. You’re just out of practice and you need to see how you’re able to read certain cues and how to respond to them.
I am about to turn 22 and I have never had a man show any sort of romantic interest in me in my life. I feel like a kid inside and if I am going to be honest, I don’t think that I am very pretty or desirable. I am overweight and not pretty (gosh, I sound like such a pick-me but these are honestly deep-rooted issues). I also feel like since I do not love myself I should not be seeking out love because I will be setting myself up for failure. How can you fall in love when you think that you don’t deserve it? I am not searching for marriage or even male validation. I just want to know if love is out there for me, someday. Is it?
When you finally accept yourself and you take yourself for who you are, nothing can stop you. And it makes you more attractive. I was talking about this to my friends when I started watch Euphoria. That Kat girl, the second she become more confident with herself and how she dressed, she stopped being invisible (outside of the sexual stuff of course). The point is more people are drawn to you when you are confident. It gives you a charismatic aura that is desirable. You are naturally fun and carefree everyone just wants to be around you.
Work on your confidence before you look for anything else. Because that really comes afterwards. Change all the things you don’t like about yourself. Get in the gym, buy more fitted clothes, start dressing up etc.
I have been insecure about my skin for years, when I look at Instagram or on t.v you see girls with super
smooth skin. I have what they call KP Keratosis pilaris, which is basically small bumps on my legs and back arms. I am so insecure about it to the point where I feel like if I get married all I will be thinking about is how not smooth my skin is. Do you think a man would want a girl with smooth skin?
Hoorta no ones skin is completely smooth 24/7. Generally when you’re a woman, with hormones, make up etc you are bound to have a little bumps here and there. I have relatively good skin but if you look closely, I be having small rashes. Obviously in your case its a bit different but still, I genuinely believe men don’t care about anything. I think us girls hype them up in our head but in reality they are very low maintenance themselves. Before I had my nikkah the older women in my family used to tell me all the time, like I used to get worried about my hair not be done 24/7, waking up with morning breath and they all told me the same thing. MEN DON’T CARE!
Hi, asc
Newly married and I have trust issues. I have access to my husband’s phone and I’m contemplating on deleting every girl from his Snapchat. I confronted him earlier, but His response is “my intention is only to look through their story” and he is right somehow, I’ve never seen any dialogue cause I check his phone when he leaves the room. He doesn’t see any issue with girls sending him pictures and videos of them with make up and filter. I brought up how it can hurt our marriage in the future, even if he is not entertaining the sisters now, it may come a day where the sheytaan gets into his mind. Please advise me as your own sister in Islam
Your concerns are justified, whilst he is okay now, it still leaves an opportunity for there to be a situation in the future.
Ultimately, you should have made him do this before you guys got married, that should have been a standard you set early. Because now this behavior has crept into your marriage and he doesn’t see a problem with it. Part of me even thinks, if you put your foot down, he is only going to want it more and be more secretive. Whilst you know something is not going on now, sometimes when you accuse someone enough, it might lead them to do the thing you’re accusing them of.
If I was in this situation, I would stack up on contraception. Numbero uno because I will not bring a baby into this situation. I would then communicate this issue but in a smart way.
“Hey babe, I’ve told you about this issue before and even though I trust you, I don’t think its best to introduce this kind of behavior in our marriage. We’re newly married and its time we start setting boundaries with outsiders and to ourselves. Subconsciously I might see you doing stuff like this and then in the future I might start having male friendships myself.”
He’s probably gonna be like huh what
Then you just say “I say that because you are really the one that leads this relationship here, you set the tone for what’s acceptable or not. Right now you’re not really doing a job and you’re blurring the lines for me. How can I follow when you yourself are not setting a good enough example?”
When you let a man know you have absolute no faith in their leadership skills, you’re hitting them where it hurts.
Birth control girlllllllll –
Go to local pharmacy and they provide full service and health check
If you feel uncomfortable the ones in your local area go to different one and speak/ask for female pharmacist. There’s a sexual clinic too in Central that give good advice too and you request a female clincian too
Before your on a birth control a full health will be done free of charge. Any type of treatment is free of charge because of nhs.
BTW- girls choose you and pick you at the end of day because no will !
This is great advice
Sis who’s moving out
Pick you
Choose you or else will
101 problems will be there regardless where you live but you can control invested you are and time you want to put into it
Yup!