I’m 23 and single i have a strong sense of self love however at times I cannot help but just want romantic genuine love. I’m a true hopeless romantic and I crave that so much but i just believe at times it can’t happen like that for me esp as a somali girl. Also i do have a preference to be with a somali man icl but I just can’t imagine meeting an amazing, masculine and responsible Somali man who can just sweep me off my feet. Tbh from your personal relationship Allahuma barik you give me hope that theres something out there for me! Tips for a hopeless romantic single to endure patience & girl any tips to meet some serious good somali men👀👀
I often endorse this policy of waiting for it to happen. The whole idea behind waiting for it to happen is to not focus on the fact that you’re single. Because then when the time comes, you just end up looking desperate. And trust me, it is very obvious when a girl is looking to settle down, and it could scare any potential suitors off. The reason I say you should change your attitude towards singleness, is because I actually think that element is what attracts people to you MORE.
I’ve had single friends and I’ve had single friends who were in situationships and the ones who were most fun to me, were the single friends. They were happier people, and good vibes. Whenever we’d go out, they were always the same girls getting approached because people just wanted to be apart of the fun too. Honestly vibes are so important man. When people can see you’re friendly and just cool, they want to be around you. Sometimes girls don’t realise that when they are so eager to be approached, they come off standoffish and kinda withdrawn. But have you noticed, people who aren’t looking to find anyone- they are here for the vibes and vibes only, they don’t care about acting boujie, they want to talk to anyone!
Focus on being friendly and approachable. Put yourself in situations to meet other single people who might be like you, or put up a dating profile that you only casually use when you come across a profile that REALLY strikes you. Don’t date just anyone, unless you want to gain dating experience. But also don’t sit around thinking your perfect partner is going to just fall into your lap.
Anon
3 years ago
Hi my husband is lazy and doesn’t like working. He works sometimes at night shifts at Amazon but he doesn’t like it. He leads prayers in masjid on Fridays and Ramadan nights. He’s been trying to get me pregnant for 2 years and is not working but deep down in my heart I don’t want to have a baby because I feel like he just wants to show off to his friends that he has a kid and also the government will give us a house and doesn’t have to work as hard as he should as for me I’m currently working in care but I feel like I bring 90% of financial to the household. My husband even though he leads prayers at masjids he watches porn and sometimes expects me to perform like them or says things like ow u r shit in bed, that has effected my mental health and made me really insecure. But none of people outside know this. His mum thinks she has raised an angel, because he went to Islamic school when he was growing up. But I feel like he’s Jekyll and mr hide to the people outside and to me. I feel exhausted being with him. He has really bad habits like he doesn’t shower most of the time unless Friday he doesn’t wash his clothes and shouts at me when I wash his thoub he likes to put on perfume and iron and take it the next Friday.
You husband is a lazy piece of shit and you need to seriously tell him about himself.
Have you really sat down with him and explained all of this. Not nagged, not asked him to help, but sat down and talked about how you feel, how stressed you are, how you absolutely cannot have kids with him because you cannot parent another child?
But in the case you have already done this, what more can actually be done? Is he depressed? Something is clearly not alright with him and its up to you to decide if you’re willing to get to the root cause of all these strange behaviours. Maybe this is why he also hasn’t been showering.
You’re married to him, so at the very least – a serious conversation needs to be had. And you have to let him know, this is serious crisis talks. If you guys don’t come to the conclusion, he needs to know you are willing to walk away. Make sure you don’t get pregnant, because it will trap you in this marriage.
My advice. Time to go on strike. Cook food for yourself only, wash your own dishes, do just your own laundry. Everything that’s his? Leave it be. Don’t have sex with him either, and spend most of your free time out the house. Maybe this might whip him into shape. Also, stop giving money towards the house, the reason why he isn’t working is because he knows you’re going to cover him. So stop completely.
Also let him straight up know you are not attracted to him whilst he’s like this. Sometimes you really got to be cruel to be kind.
“You don’t shower, you don’t work and you don’t contribute a dime towards our house. Before it was okay because as your wife I’m supposed to pick you up when you’re down, but this is making me really uncomfortable. Its even starting to affect my attraction towards you.”
When he hears that, it will feel like a stab to the chest (that’s if he cares, if he doesn’t: you better run girl)
Anon
3 years ago
Hi sister,
All my of family ( relatives) study scientific courses eg medicine, nutrition, biomedical and pharmacy. All my life I’ve been put down by not having good grades to apply for medicine. I applied for nursing for uni (my one decision) and didn’t get accepted into uni.
Now I feel really worthless as relatives study in prestigious uni and I couldn’t get into a lower ranked uni.
I don’t what to do and feel worthless and stupid when I meet them.
Jokes on everyone because whilst their degree is prestigious, the money is far from it. Get into corporate. When they see you making 3x times what they’re making, they can’t say anything. Instead they’ll be like “damn👀👀”
Anon
3 years ago
hi sis, firstly i love & appreciate what you do for so many girls on here
my question is, i’ve been with this man for over a year and we are just about to make it halal inshallah, but i’ve had this nagging thought in the back of my mind that Allah swt will prevent a marriage from happening as a punishment for the rs not being halal that whole time. it’s making me really nervous and i just wanted a second opinion
This literally the shaytan in your ear. He’s telling you to stop making things halal so you can continue doing haram.
You have an opportunity to make your relationship halal and Alhamdulilah for it! Take it! Don’t let seeds of doubt in your ear stop you from bringing Barakah into your relationship.
Anon
3 years ago
How did you start the sister guide and why did you do it? Before I used to think who made you a therapist but after reading I noticed you mainly talk from experiences so I jumped the gun abit. it’s so good!! I don’t get the vibes of you feel better than us but that your pushing us in the right direction so thank you ❤️❤️
But yeah I had my cc and it was just on Twitter, and it happened organically. I get too invested in people and I just want to find a solution 😭 I do it too much in my own friendships loooool so this is actually good for me. But I think when you are that friend everyone goes to, and you hear a lot of madnesses – you actually can’t help yourself. I have to say something. So with that, I already knew there was a real market for this.
Also because I had older sisters who were way more forthcoming than I was, I naturally became non judgemental. it’s harder to be judgemental when it’s your sisters you know what I’m saying?? Also I’ve heard all the mad stories about men, and luckily their coach was my mother 🤣 She’s taught all of us how to treat men and change our attitude towards relationship. I used to tell her everything 😭😭 and if she didn’t feel like he had good qualities, she’d save straight up “he’s got to go”. She’s such a matriarch that’s naturally it passed on to her daughters. And that actually became a big part of my personality. I’m such a good listener and that’s because I get so invested. I don’t throw away advice that you can tell is not genuine. I honestly think it’s because I became a manifestation of all the things I wanted 😭😭😭 I’ve always wanted a life coach for MYSELF in all areas of my life – not just for relationships
And I think because deep down I’ve always wanted a younger sister, that want has pushed me to do this. Whenever I hear crazy situations that happen to girls in REAL LIFE (it is worse than the ones you read on TSG), I’m always like “YOU NEED TO DO THIS! BE SELFISH, ESTABLISH YOURSELF” – I talk farrr too much 😭🤣 so this is good for me. And it’s beneficial, which is why I hope to expand and invite more people here. Girls need women who will mentor them! Wallahi seriously, this culture we have of everything being hush hush – the only person who loses are the younger generation of girls. How can you make good choices when no one shows you the consequences and outcomes of all the bad ones people have made before us??
I have noticed though a lot of women in my generation are creating more platforms, especially about motherhood. And Wallahi this makes me so happy. Because I know that would be exactly what I needed when I have children Inshallah. Sometimes you just need a room to be you and ask questions
Anon
3 years ago
Hey sis,
I am really good at setting boundaries with guys when it comes to dating/going out etc… I feel like I’m put offf the whole girlfriend/boy friend thing because of sexual/physical side of things. I’m not sure how I can keep things halal until marriage because you know how shaytan can get in the way and we’re only humans. How would you deal with it. So say for instance if I am really interested in a guy and we have good intentions (halal ie marriage), how can we avoid the physical sexual aspects of the relationship. I didn’t proofread this as I am at work but hope it makes sense.
People think it’s really hard to stay away from doing anything haram, but you absolutely can.
Go out during the day, go out for walks, don’t stay in the car together longer than you should. Focus on having a friendship first before you develop anything physical. And if you feel yourself going in that direction, talk about that and come up with new suggestions! It’s possible
Anon
3 years ago
what should I be expecting from a guy during 4/5 months of talking?
Going on dates, getting gifts, flowers outside your house, him giving you long letters after you’ve beefed, being excited for him to pick you up after you’ve gone out with your girls, living your baby gyal lifeeee!
Not marriage talks, or when are you
Gonna ask for my hand. Just enjoy what you have. If you’re together for a year, then have those real discussions. Obviously you can say cute stuff like “I know you’ll be in my life for a long time” but do just that, just allude to it. Don’t put too much pressure because you could ruin a good thing
Anon
3 years ago
hi lulu I only started following you recently but I think ur stunning mashallah! 😅 so my brothers has been taking the mick out of my face shape and now I don’t think I’m that attractive because I think face shape matters idk if I’m right but that’s my dilemma it’s makes me feel insecure and not that confident
And listen girl, everytime my brothers see me wearing make up they always say I look like a clown. But guess what I know I’m buff 😭 SO WHAT KNOW?? Brothers don’t really say to their sisters they look good, so I wouldn’t even take it personally. Even if you do look good, they’ll say otherwise. And that’s because they are your brothers 😭😭😭
Anon
3 years ago
how can I stop obsessing over the crushes I get🙁I get attached before the talking stage and I feel hurt when nothing happens even though we weren’t talking
Have more options. When you put all your eggs in one basket of course you’re going to be fixated on that one egg. Get more eggs init !!
Last edited 3 years ago by Lulu
Anon
3 years ago
Hey babe I hope you’re well,
I am in a relationship and I hope to get married in about a year and half. We can’t get married sooner (I need to finish uni first) which I understand in the long run is probably best for me. I can’t stop myself from thinking about marriage all the time and wanting to spend the rest of my life with my partner the halal way. I know I’ll never understand the reality of marriage until I get there and I know it isn’t easy. I have seen lots of failed and struggling marriages around me (family + friends) so I don’t believe it’s going to always be a magical fantasy. I do feel like I am ready, and Alhamdulilah even though I’m only 20 I’m doing well for myself, in terms of making my own money, having my own car and balancing uni. Im pretty much set on my future career path too so I’m very content Alhamdulilah. I’m trying to not put too much pressure on myself and just wait it out but I can’t help it. My partner is a few years older than me (not alarmingly old dw! ) and he is ready whenever (in every aspect) and Alhamdulilah he never pressures me to rush getting married.I couldn’t complain about him at all. At this point I just feel like I’m delaying it for the sake of my family because I don’t want to go against them. I’ve accepted that it won’t happen for me this year but it’s hard to stop thinking about it all the time. I have good meaningful friendships so I’ve been trying to invest more time into them and do more for myself spiritually and mentally etc but a sis is MADLY in love and I really wish it could happen for me sooner. My mum knows and could probably be swayed but my dad won’t let it run at all so I haven’t even bothered to bring it up.
This was me! The whole of 2020 I wanted nothing more to just be married. I had already signed off that part of my life as an individual and I was just ready to start a new one. And covid just happened and it was so hard to get married. And that want was honestly playing on my mind for so long. I have never wanted something so bad. But guess what, Allah is really the best of all planners.
If I got married in peak Covid, I would not have the marriage I envisioned. My family were stuck abroad, my husband had a big opportunity in his career and that became his life 24/7 for 4 months straight. If we got married, I wouldn’t be his priority and what can I say – when his work is bringing all the bread. Mentally lockdown was getting to me too so I wasn’t even at my happiest. On top of all that, there were no homes available. And you know what, I was still willing to get married despite all of that because I wanted it so bad. And then randomly I was like, marriage is not going anywhere??? Why would I get married in those conditions, because ultimately it would have a ripple effect on the most precious thing to me: my relationship. And I wasn’t willing to take the risk of rocking that stability for me. So I waited for a year later and I’m so glad I did. Because I got everything I wanted. I had so much fun, even got to move out before I got married, I got my proposal, my home, my family there and my husband was able to reduce the time he spent working.
My best advice is to not get married during stressful situations, it will bring out the worst in couples. And it will take you so long to get over the wedding blues and new moods, and that’s gonna be really hard when you start living with someone new. There’s never a right time to get married, but know when it’s NOT. It’s not going anywhere. Focus on having fun, still being an individual!
Some many married women look back wishing they had more time being by themselves, so don’t be that girl.
The thing about marriage is that it’s made out to be the single biggest milestone of life just before having children; most people will claim a person is either being silly or selfish for not wanting to get married. For women, it’s considered even worse to not get married before we grow “old and unattractive” (though this age is usually in our mid 20s to early 30s).
People are rushed into getting married to fulfill this societal expectation in hopes to avoid getting ostracized, and in the process they occasionally wind up in relationships and situations that don’t work in the long term. For that reason, I’m even more inclined to say wait later!!
I’m 23 and single i have a strong sense of self love however at times I cannot help but just want romantic genuine love. I’m a true hopeless romantic and I crave that so much but i just believe at times it can’t happen like that for me esp as a somali girl. Also i do have a preference to be with a somali man icl but I just can’t imagine meeting an amazing, masculine and responsible Somali man who can just sweep me off my feet. Tbh from your personal relationship Allahuma barik you give me hope that theres something out there for me! Tips for a hopeless romantic single to endure patience & girl any tips to meet some serious good somali men👀👀
I often endorse this policy of waiting for it to happen. The whole idea behind waiting for it to happen is to not focus on the fact that you’re single. Because then when the time comes, you just end up looking desperate. And trust me, it is very obvious when a girl is looking to settle down, and it could scare any potential suitors off. The reason I say you should change your attitude towards singleness, is because I actually think that element is what attracts people to you MORE.
I’ve had single friends and I’ve had single friends who were in situationships and the ones who were most fun to me, were the single friends. They were happier people, and good vibes. Whenever we’d go out, they were always the same girls getting approached because people just wanted to be apart of the fun too. Honestly vibes are so important man. When people can see you’re friendly and just cool, they want to be around you. Sometimes girls don’t realise that when they are so eager to be approached, they come off standoffish and kinda withdrawn. But have you noticed, people who aren’t looking to find anyone- they are here for the vibes and vibes only, they don’t care about acting boujie, they want to talk to anyone!
Focus on being friendly and approachable. Put yourself in situations to meet other single people who might be like you, or put up a dating profile that you only casually use when you come across a profile that REALLY strikes you. Don’t date just anyone, unless you want to gain dating experience. But also don’t sit around thinking your perfect partner is going to just fall into your lap.
Hi my husband is lazy and doesn’t like working. He works sometimes at night shifts at Amazon but he doesn’t like it. He leads prayers in masjid on Fridays and Ramadan nights. He’s been trying to get me pregnant for 2 years and is not working but deep down in my heart I don’t want to have a baby because I feel like he just wants to show off to his friends that he has a kid and also the government will give us a house and doesn’t have to work as hard as he should as for me I’m currently working in care but I feel like I bring 90% of financial to the household. My husband even though he leads prayers at masjids he watches porn and sometimes expects me to perform like them or says things like ow u r shit in bed, that has effected my mental health and made me really insecure. But none of people outside know this. His mum thinks she has raised an angel, because he went to Islamic school when he was growing up. But I feel like he’s Jekyll and mr hide to the people outside and to me. I feel exhausted being with him. He has really bad habits like he doesn’t shower most of the time unless Friday he doesn’t wash his clothes and shouts at me when I wash his thoub he likes to put on perfume and iron and take it the next Friday.
You husband is a lazy piece of shit and you need to seriously tell him about himself.
Have you really sat down with him and explained all of this. Not nagged, not asked him to help, but sat down and talked about how you feel, how stressed you are, how you absolutely cannot have kids with him because you cannot parent another child?
But in the case you have already done this, what more can actually be done? Is he depressed? Something is clearly not alright with him and its up to you to decide if you’re willing to get to the root cause of all these strange behaviours. Maybe this is why he also hasn’t been showering.
You’re married to him, so at the very least – a serious conversation needs to be had. And you have to let him know, this is serious crisis talks. If you guys don’t come to the conclusion, he needs to know you are willing to walk away. Make sure you don’t get pregnant, because it will trap you in this marriage.
My advice. Time to go on strike. Cook food for yourself only, wash your own dishes, do just your own laundry. Everything that’s his? Leave it be. Don’t have sex with him either, and spend most of your free time out the house. Maybe this might whip him into shape. Also, stop giving money towards the house, the reason why he isn’t working is because he knows you’re going to cover him. So stop completely.
Also let him straight up know you are not attracted to him whilst he’s like this. Sometimes you really got to be cruel to be kind.
“You don’t shower, you don’t work and you don’t contribute a dime towards our house. Before it was okay because as your wife I’m supposed to pick you up when you’re down, but this is making me really uncomfortable. Its even starting to affect my attraction towards you.”
When he hears that, it will feel like a stab to the chest (that’s if he cares, if he doesn’t: you better run girl)
Hi sister,
All my of family ( relatives) study scientific courses eg medicine, nutrition, biomedical and pharmacy. All my life I’ve been put down by not having good grades to apply for medicine. I applied for nursing for uni (my one decision) and didn’t get accepted into uni.
Now I feel really worthless as relatives study in prestigious uni and I couldn’t get into a lower ranked uni.
I don’t what to do and feel worthless and stupid when I meet them.
Jokes on everyone because whilst their degree is prestigious, the money is far from it. Get into corporate. When they see you making 3x times what they’re making, they can’t say anything. Instead they’ll be like “damn👀👀”
hi sis, firstly i love & appreciate what you do for so many girls on here
my question is, i’ve been with this man for over a year and we are just about to make it halal inshallah, but i’ve had this nagging thought in the back of my mind that Allah swt will prevent a marriage from happening as a punishment for the rs not being halal that whole time. it’s making me really nervous and i just wanted a second opinion
This literally the shaytan in your ear. He’s telling you to stop making things halal so you can continue doing haram.
You have an opportunity to make your relationship halal and Alhamdulilah for it! Take it! Don’t let seeds of doubt in your ear stop you from bringing Barakah into your relationship.
How did you start the sister guide and why did you do it? Before I used to think who made you a therapist but after reading I noticed you mainly talk from experiences so I jumped the gun abit. it’s so good!! I don’t get the vibes of you feel better than us but that your pushing us in the right direction so thank you ❤️❤️
Haha thank you girl!!
But yeah I had my cc and it was just on Twitter, and it happened organically. I get too invested in people and I just want to find a solution 😭 I do it too much in my own friendships loooool so this is actually good for me. But I think when you are that friend everyone goes to, and you hear a lot of madnesses – you actually can’t help yourself. I have to say something. So with that, I already knew there was a real market for this.
Also because I had older sisters who were way more forthcoming than I was, I naturally became non judgemental. it’s harder to be judgemental when it’s your sisters you know what I’m saying?? Also I’ve heard all the mad stories about men, and luckily their coach was my mother 🤣 She’s taught all of us how to treat men and change our attitude towards relationship. I used to tell her everything 😭😭 and if she didn’t feel like he had good qualities, she’d save straight up “he’s got to go”. She’s such a matriarch that’s naturally it passed on to her daughters. And that actually became a big part of my personality. I’m such a good listener and that’s because I get so invested. I don’t throw away advice that you can tell is not genuine. I honestly think it’s because I became a manifestation of all the things I wanted 😭😭😭 I’ve always wanted a life coach for MYSELF in all areas of my life – not just for relationships
And I think because deep down I’ve always wanted a younger sister, that want has pushed me to do this. Whenever I hear crazy situations that happen to girls in REAL LIFE (it is worse than the ones you read on TSG), I’m always like “YOU NEED TO DO THIS! BE SELFISH, ESTABLISH YOURSELF” – I talk farrr too much 😭🤣 so this is good for me. And it’s beneficial, which is why I hope to expand and invite more people here. Girls need women who will mentor them! Wallahi seriously, this culture we have of everything being hush hush – the only person who loses are the younger generation of girls. How can you make good choices when no one shows you the consequences and outcomes of all the bad ones people have made before us??
I have noticed though a lot of women in my generation are creating more platforms, especially about motherhood. And Wallahi this makes me so happy. Because I know that would be exactly what I needed when I have children Inshallah. Sometimes you just need a room to be you and ask questions
Hey sis,
I am really good at setting boundaries with guys when it comes to dating/going out etc… I feel like I’m put offf the whole girlfriend/boy friend thing because of sexual/physical side of things. I’m not sure how I can keep things halal until marriage because you know how shaytan can get in the way and we’re only humans. How would you deal with it. So say for instance if I am really interested in a guy and we have good intentions (halal ie marriage), how can we avoid the physical sexual aspects of the relationship. I didn’t proofread this as I am at work but hope it makes sense.
People think it’s really hard to stay away from doing anything haram, but you absolutely can.
Go out during the day, go out for walks, don’t stay in the car together longer than you should. Focus on having a friendship first before you develop anything physical. And if you feel yourself going in that direction, talk about that and come up with new suggestions! It’s possible
what should I be expecting from a guy during 4/5 months of talking?
Going on dates, getting gifts, flowers outside your house, him giving you long letters after you’ve beefed, being excited for him to pick you up after you’ve gone out with your girls, living your baby gyal lifeeee!
Not marriage talks, or when are you
Gonna ask for my hand. Just enjoy what you have. If you’re together for a year, then have those real discussions. Obviously you can say cute stuff like “I know you’ll be in my life for a long time” but do just that, just allude to it. Don’t put too much pressure because you could ruin a good thing
hi lulu I only started following you recently but I think ur stunning mashallah! 😅 so my brothers has been taking the mick out of my face shape and now I don’t think I’m that attractive because I think face shape matters idk if I’m right but that’s my dilemma it’s makes me feel insecure and not that confident
Thank you!!
And listen girl, everytime my brothers see me wearing make up they always say I look like a clown. But guess what I know I’m buff 😭 SO WHAT KNOW?? Brothers don’t really say to their sisters they look good, so I wouldn’t even take it personally. Even if you do look good, they’ll say otherwise. And that’s because they are your brothers 😭😭😭
how can I stop obsessing over the crushes I get🙁I get attached before the talking stage and I feel hurt when nothing happens even though we weren’t talking
Have more options. When you put all your eggs in one basket of course you’re going to be fixated on that one egg. Get more eggs init !!
Hey babe I hope you’re well,
I am in a relationship and I hope to get married in about a year and half. We can’t get married sooner (I need to finish uni first) which I understand in the long run is probably best for me. I can’t stop myself from thinking about marriage all the time and wanting to spend the rest of my life with my partner the halal way. I know I’ll never understand the reality of marriage until I get there and I know it isn’t easy. I have seen lots of failed and struggling marriages around me (family + friends) so I don’t believe it’s going to always be a magical fantasy. I do feel like I am ready, and Alhamdulilah even though I’m only 20 I’m doing well for myself, in terms of making my own money, having my own car and balancing uni. Im pretty much set on my future career path too so I’m very content Alhamdulilah. I’m trying to not put too much pressure on myself and just wait it out but I can’t help it. My partner is a few years older than me (not alarmingly old dw! ) and he is ready whenever (in every aspect) and Alhamdulilah he never pressures me to rush getting married.I couldn’t complain about him at all. At this point I just feel like I’m delaying it for the sake of my family because I don’t want to go against them. I’ve accepted that it won’t happen for me this year but it’s hard to stop thinking about it all the time. I have good meaningful friendships so I’ve been trying to invest more time into them and do more for myself spiritually and mentally etc but a sis is MADLY in love and I really wish it could happen for me sooner. My mum knows and could probably be swayed but my dad won’t let it run at all so I haven’t even bothered to bring it up.
Girlllll
This was me! The whole of 2020 I wanted nothing more to just be married. I had already signed off that part of my life as an individual and I was just ready to start a new one. And covid just happened and it was so hard to get married. And that want was honestly playing on my mind for so long. I have never wanted something so bad. But guess what, Allah is really the best of all planners.
If I got married in peak Covid, I would not have the marriage I envisioned. My family were stuck abroad, my husband had a big opportunity in his career and that became his life 24/7 for 4 months straight. If we got married, I wouldn’t be his priority and what can I say – when his work is bringing all the bread. Mentally lockdown was getting to me too so I wasn’t even at my happiest. On top of all that, there were no homes available. And you know what, I was still willing to get married despite all of that because I wanted it so bad. And then randomly I was like, marriage is not going anywhere??? Why would I get married in those conditions, because ultimately it would have a ripple effect on the most precious thing to me: my relationship. And I wasn’t willing to take the risk of rocking that stability for me. So I waited for a year later and I’m so glad I did. Because I got everything I wanted. I had so much fun, even got to move out before I got married, I got my proposal, my home, my family there and my husband was able to reduce the time he spent working.
My best advice is to not get married during stressful situations, it will bring out the worst in couples. And it will take you so long to get over the wedding blues and new moods, and that’s gonna be really hard when you start living with someone new. There’s never a right time to get married, but know when it’s NOT. It’s not going anywhere. Focus on having fun, still being an individual!
Some many married women look back wishing they had more time being by themselves, so don’t be that girl.
The thing about marriage is that it’s made out to be the single biggest milestone of life just before having children; most people will claim a person is either being silly or selfish for not wanting to get married. For women, it’s considered even worse to not get married before we grow “old and unattractive” (though this age is usually in our mid 20s to early 30s).
People are rushed into getting married to fulfill this societal expectation in hopes to avoid getting ostracized, and in the process they occasionally wind up in relationships and situations that don’t work in the long term. For that reason, I’m even more inclined to say wait later!!