Relationship Advice - Sister Circle

Is he playing?? Feeling heartbroken, foolish, and stupid

Lavendercrandberry — Tue, 05 Mar 2024 15:44:40 +0000

This guy who lives in my neighborhood and I started communicating and occassionally seeing each other in September 2023. We both are busy and don't get to see each other often. He works 8-12 hours a day, and I am unemployed due to disability and I also am a caregiver for my sickly 92 year old mother.

Over the course of our dynamics, him and I have had problems and sometimes have cut communication with each other multiple times but so far have always ventured back to one another. In the time we've been communicating he expressed to me that he thinks I'm a nice person whose morals and virtues align with his, that he wants to eventually marry and start a family with. We both have expressed and exchanged feelings of fondness towards one another.

We've had xes twice and each time after, he cuts off communicating and has ghost me. The first time we had xes was 6 months ago..he ghosted me for a short while..and later apologized and said that it was due to him feeling insecure and questioning his size, performance, and capabilities. . We just had xes for the second time 3 days ago, and I haven't heard from since, and he's been ignoring my texts.. I have only texted him twice. Once to ask how he was feeling..the other to wish him a good day ahead.

Him ghosting me last time lasted for about 2 weeks.. then he texted me apologizing, saying he missed me and told me things were not okay with him and he questioned me if I had been satisfied.

Last week he had about 2 guys over for company...or so I thought.. I had asked a few minutes before I knew of his company, if he wanted to see me then..in which he never responded.that day..not even to tell me he's busy...
I thought that was strange because he's always asking to spend more time with me..even if it's a quick hug.. He has left company before to see me for a hug.

I am almost certain that I saw him there with another woman as well and they were making out..
He swears that there are no other women..
During our breaks, on his way to and from work he often looks at my house as if hoping to see me.
Is he playing me, and perhaps only using me for sex, to fill voids of loneliness and ego boost???

Does he mean anything he tells me?? Are these red flags and should I end things once and for all??

Dating below my standards

anotheranon — Thu, 14 Sep 2023 15:18:34 +0000

Hi Sisters,

I just wanted advice on my current life situation. i’ve been dating men who we’re neither financially ready, bums and people who if i look at my standards they’re way below them.

Recently i’ve been having an existential crisis. Trying to figure out why i make the decisions that i do, i’ve been trying to be more self aware but i would like insight from someone outside. Id really like to change this about myself and be more confident and also to stop wasting time in finding someone who’s my potential.

Heartbroken?

Anonymous — Wed, 13 Sep 2023 14:14:40 +0000

Hi girls

I've recently stopped talking to someone who I feel like I was in love with due to some external factors. we weren’t in a relationship as I didn’t want it to have that bf and gf label but we were talking about marriage and heading in that direction.

I’m really struggling with how to get over this/him. Part of me says I won’t find someone like him again who will be so sweet to me but another part says I’m still young so ofc I will find someone who will also treat me well. I’m keeping myself busy and trying not to to think about him but it’s when I have any alone time that hes constantly in my head.

Everyone thinks I have a man??

maysahu — Wed, 13 Sep 2023 03:20:37 +0000

Hey girls, so I have this issue where men only follow me on my socials and rarely message me to try to get to know me and apparently I come across as someone who's in a relationship so men are scared to hit me up because they fear that I might reject them. I'm confused as to why I come across as someone who has a man because I follow these men back and also like their posts so I need advice on how to stop this from happening!! LOL. I also get told by people that I seem like someone who has a roster when in reality it's the opposite chileeeeee...

Friendships

Latika — Tue, 12 Sep 2023 18:33:41 +0000

I have these toxic family members who have a plethora of issues. I have just been ignoring their comments, behaviour, etc over the years because I grew tired of arguing. Every time I bring up an issue they refuse to accept that they were wrong and will argue till kingdom come. In turn I distanced myself and just ignored everything they did as it did not matter. I knew where they stood in my life. Recently something happened and I snapped. The same way they treated me and tried to tarnish my name I did the same to them. In the process I lost dear friends of mine because they were manipulated into believing them without even having context or understanding why I even reacted that way. Those closest to me understand and I didn’t have to explain to them. My heart still hurts that there are ex friends who believe I’m this person I’m not and I want to clear my name. How can I move on and accept this? I know I shouldn’t care but it angers me that I’m painted to be someone I’m not.