Advice to my Muslim sisters.
I will never forget the day I first met him. We had been texting for a while and I was so excited to meet him, keep in mind this person was on his deen, his family is strictly on the deen too . I was excited and nerve-wrecked, because I never meet or dated other men before I was pure, he was in shook that I have never been with a guy before at my big age 23. But he took advantage of me and he told me I want marriage I trusted him I believed him.
He made me feel great during the time we got to know each other, I thought we were on the same page. But there were little things that concerned me, why he kept postponing for so long to ask my hand in marriage. It should have been clear to me that I needed to break things off, but before we broke up he decided to make things halal, so he came to visit me, and things turned left.
Yes, we hugged, yes, we kissed, I tried to control it and I asked myself even, how is this person on his deen- things didn’t make sense at all, this person was being a hypocrite, living a double lifestyle.
How can he disrespect my parents like that, take out their pure blessing daughter secretly? But according to him, he loved me regardless and wanted marriage, but he wasn’t make the move at all since he was supposed to make it official, I called him one day to talk to him about when he was going to make it official, but he decided to use other things as a excuse. He used religion as an excuse to break things off with me, he decided to say your deen is not on point, are you willing to change for the better muslimah, that’s when things got heated. This person didn’t want marriage, he liked me because I was free, because he could do things with me, he took advantage of me because of my kindness, but he also disrespected me for it.
I don’t blame him, because he got what he wanted, he wanted me not be a pure girl any more, he wanted me to have a past, he wanted him to be my first ex. This person lived a double lifestyle, he barely told anyone about the relationship, he kept it secret. I blame him. He were not the man I thought he was. He used me as a tool for pleasure, but didn’t consider a serious relationship at all.
After i broke up with him, I was wondering: Am I the only one in this situation? I decided to share my story to every Muslimah to really think twice before getting to know someone and make sure he takes a permission from your parents. I found out that there were a lot of girls who were abused the same way. I didn’t feel alone in my pain anymore.
I just wonder, what is the essence of him using the religion? Allah will deal with such a people, and I hope every girl rejects him.
Girls please think twice think twice, and make sure you tell him that your going to tell your parents about him, he will have respect for you. May Allah bless you girls and twitter fam.