Is it okay for a man to be liking half naked pictures of girls when he is talking to a girl? Also when he follows loads of big booty bitches that don’t follow him back?
It’s not okay. And it’s not cute either. At least have some of these ‘big booty bitches’ follow you back? Like damn. Not only is he being thirsty, but the girls don’t want him either? Double homicide.
Anon
3 years ago
I (23F) have just started thinking about marriage and everything you say really resonates with me. I am the eldest so as every somali girl i’ve been raising kids and helping the house out financially. I’ve been helping out in a way a man should so I refuse to let this be my marital situation. This is where it becomes difficult because I now know exactly what I want in a man ie he has to take care of the house financially, be kind etc but sisss where the hell are these men? Due to covid its been really hard finding these types of men, online is a hot mess. Do you have any tips on where to go? I am really confident with men and have no problem holding a conversation, dates are minor but it seems like nowadays most guys run away from providing financially in the marriage and that for me is non-negotiable so my question really is do you have any tips on where to find these men?
Think about the type of men you want, and what places they would be around. For example, If you want someone who works in the corporate industry, start connecting with some of your friends that are in that same industry too. You need to find a link that will connect you to those kind of people or, at the very least, gives you the means to be around them. Also, regularly go out, try to go out with one friend- that way, it’s easier for men to approach you. Also get ready to go on pointless dates, thats because it takes a while for you to filter out the potentials from the bad. And don’t put to much pressure on yourself to find a man. Because sometimes it just happens for you when you are genuinely not looking.
Anon
3 years ago
My ex and I broke up amicably, even though the way it happened was kind of traumatic for me. However, months have unfolded and I really took in how he treated me (manipulation, control, mental abuse and narcissism). We were following each other on IG (I know… smh), so I unfollowed him and removed him as a follower so I can officially begin healing and moving on. He’s the kind of person who makes himself out to be a victim and will often twist everything on the other person he has any issue with, and so I worry that he’ll take me doing this as some kind of act of war (I know it sounds dramatic, but someone with narcissistic tendencies like him often see it that way). I did it because I really want to move on and have a clean slate after everything that I went through, and I don’t want to trigger him spreading things about me or trigger him into some hate spiral against me. How can I calm my mind down about this sister?
There’s no such thing as breaking up amicably with a narcissist, and that’s because they never want you to find any peace after the break up. So cut the contact NOW. Generally, abusive relationships form “trauma bonds” and this is what is keeping you addicted to that person even after the relationship has ended. It is also why its so hard to leave anyways. Also the more contact you have with him, the more likely he is going to go on a smear campaign, and do everything humanly possible to make you look crazy. They constantly play the victim and set out to ruin your reputation. And when that doesn’t work, they fucking hover over you hoping that you’ll give in.
It is in your best interest to act fast.
1) No Contact
2) If you guys have mutual friends, they don’t need to be here no more. Let them see the block button, immediately. Because all they will do is interfere.
3) Constantly remind yourself why this man is unstable. And how better off you were before he even came into your life.
4) Remind yourself that they WILL move on. As much as Narcissists will try to convince you that you are the only woman for them, they are lying. Anyone who will give them the attention they crave so much, is for them. They will switch to another source of happiness swiftly.
5) Keep yourself busy. Try to distance yourself mentally for this relationship as much as you can. I know its hard but grit your teeth and just forget.
The getting over someone is the hard part but it really doesn’t last that long. It only lasts long when you are still contacting/hoping that this person is going to change. Accept it and in a few months, you’ll genuinely forget about them. Good luck sis, you’ll be okay 🙂
Anon
3 years ago
I’m so excited for this website. My dilemma is that I had a crush on a guy for awhile now, we used to be best friends in high school. When I went to UNI i was going through a hard time and pushed everyone away including him. He tried shooting his shot, and I curved him. I just started recently having a crush him after all these years after I saw him in public. How can I pick up where we left, it’s been many years. I just want to talk to him again I don’t know if he harbors any bitterness for cutting him off but I honestly don’t know what to do.
You don’t have anything to lose, and maybe he wanted to reach out to you too, you’ll never know unless you find out. So find out!
Say something charming along the lines of “hey I was just randomly thinking about you/or something reminded me of you. How have you been?” And see what he says back.
Be really friendly and hopefully he might not even remember you cutting him off. Honestly be brave and just do it 😭 stuff like that was so exciting to me when I was younger man I used to live for it ahaha.
Anon
3 years ago
Will Ladan be doing any replies on this blog? It would be interesting to have both perspective on some of these dilemmas 👀
Yes!!!! I’m literally figuring out a way to set up an account for her as we speak 😭 There’s just too many to get through. Me and my husband are just learning new things as we go making this website. But yes, she’s coming and wallahi you guys will absolutely love her
Anon
3 years ago
Hey sis, I’ve been engaged for just over a year now. In my culture you have a nikah first (this is termed “engagement”), then plan for a wedding and move in together after this. We were together for around a year and a half before our nikah.
We’ve been through hell and back this past year. We don’t live together and have already learnt so much about each other. He didn’t witness a healthy relationship growing up and this really affected us, the same fundamental problems we had before we had our nikah started creeping back until I eventually had enough. I told him I couldn’t do it anymore and that I wanted a divorce. We didn’t speak for a month. Eventually, I forgave him as I really started to see a change in his behaviour, and he now does everything he can to make me happy. We’ve been good for a couple of months now. Honestly, I love him but I feel like it’s just not enough for me anymore. I appreciate him trying but everything he does gives me the ick now, and I feel like the amount of resentment I held towards him in the past has really taken its toll. However, I am so so so scared to break his heart. I know us separating would be extremely hard for him and that I would be painted as the bad person as he really loves me, and wants to try and work things out no matter what. I feel like I made my decision a long time ago and am just scared to act on it. I’ve tried everything in this time and nothing has worked, I just can’t bring back those feelings for him and it isn’t fair on him. He deserves to be with someone who loves and accepts him wholeheartedly. What do I do?
First and foremost, marriage is HARD WORK. And the first year of marriage, is always going to be the hardest. That’s really because you are adjusting to a new life, and you’re not sure what that looks like? And now you have to figure it out with someone basically tied to your hip. And when there are small hiccups, it feels like you are failing the marriage already when in reality, you’re not.
With that said, you haven’t said what the source of your resentment is. What are the fundamental problems and are those really enough for you not to persist with the marriage? You have said, since then, he has done everything in his power to make things better for you. That to me sounds like someone who is committed to making it work. I feel like you’re too in over your own head. Marriage is not smooth sailing all the time. It is a partnership more than anything, and it requires teamwork. Spouses are constantly changing in their marriage, and you literally grow together. You are constantly changing, and in a marriage, you learn to love every part of that new person they are becoming. Constantly harbouring resentment towards past behaviour is counter-productive. If you want any relationship to work, you need to work on that. Even if this doesn’t work, you are going to have a hard time building a solid foundation with anyone else if at any sign of distress, you’re first thought is to run in the opposite direction. Especially over something that might not be even a concern a few years down the line.
The best advice married couples have said to me is, nothing is really a big of a deal than what you think it is. This is another reason why the first year of a marriage is hard. That’s because now you have tied the knot publicly, its not a boyfriend and girlfriend dynamic, it’s the real deal. You are in a permanent union and the stakes just feel higher. And this makes you feel like every fight or disappointment in your relationship is like the end of the world, because so much is on the line. But in reality, all you guys did was just have a disagreement?
Whilst I say marriage is hard, there’s no need for the first year of your marriage to be unhappy. Sure, there’s a lot to be stressed about but try to keep some perspective. Marriage is the best thing in the world! It is more than having a best friend. It’s having someone you never have to hold back with. You learn a lot about yourself, you have someone to encourage you when your down, hold your hand, and you have a reason to get up and keep trying everyday because they make life worth it. When I say the first year is the hard part, I say this only because it’s the phase of you adjusting to your new life. You go from having no responsibilities to having the biggest one of them all, and that is fucking scary. Most times it has nothing to do with your partner, it’s just you getting over your fears.
I honestly would advise you to think twice about separating. You owe it to him and to yourself to make things work. This man has shown you that he is willing to change and make things right, that is a quality that is scarce in a lot of men. So is this really what you want?
Also I wanted to add: maybe things might change when you guys move in together. It might make you guys closer. Of course, this requires a big leap of faith, because it could go in any direction. But that is marriage for you. It requires a lot of faith, patience and most of all: COMMITMENT. Once you have exhausted every option, only then, should you consider a divorce. I am wishing you the very best and hopefully it works out for you. You’ll be good!
Anon
3 years ago
How do I enjoy being single when my culture and family are pressuring me to get married? I really want to focus on myself but it’s difficult when our lives are conditioned to revolve around men. I want to change this but I don’t know how
You are your own person. You are NOT a vicarious vessel for others to place their own neediness and expectations into. Its a good thing you want to focus on yourself, so make that very clear. I had a similar experience to this with external family members and I wasn’t here for it. The first time people came to me with bullshit, I made it very clear they weren’t allowed to have a say in my life. Ever. This is one thing I always say to people: don’t let others feel comfortable enough to have a say in what goes on in your life, especially when they are not the ones who are going to live with the decisions they want to make for you. Because they will just keep going.
And I didn’t waste my time trying to convince them to change their minds. As respectfully as I could, I let them now that I was handling my own life just fine and that I was good. After a while, they got bored. Don’t worry about this too much. When they notice and see you change into the person you’re becoming, focusing on your career, just living your life, they’ll get bored too. People are just jobless and too idle, it makes them feel better when they constantly know what it is you’re doing. Just be firm, and they’ll leave you alone.
Anon
3 years ago
(Brother question reply): Thanks for your response and I appreciate you taking the time writing a well thought out response. What you are said in regards to my family sharing the burden with him is true. I wish I didn’t have all that responsibility throughout his life. I just turned 19 and the money I earn from my job is peanuts and it’s crazy how I’m already being asked to pay bills for my father. I have said no because I actually can’t but, as the oldest he never got a choice. I just wish there was less focus on meher money in our community and extravagant weddings when the money could be put towards better use paying towards having a home, travelling, saving for kids etc. I don’t think women are materialistic. I am a woman and I know plenty others who aren’t. My thing is if you want to marry this guy and the money isn’t there why try to force it? She knew his salary but making demands like that is not fair in my opinion. Especially because my brother is very kind and has a good nature. Obviously I would never say anything like this to her or him but we need to be more thoughtful about these things as a community. Our household wealth compared to other immigrants in this country is so low and we have these unrealistic expectations when it comes towards marriage and money
I agree, if she knows he does not have it financially, there is no need for him to continue pushing him or making more demands. She ultimately has to decide what to do in that circumstance. Am I going to stick by him, even though financially he does not meet my expectations? Or do I just end it here? Obviously choosing the latter is a really hard call to make. I’m not surprised that she is still trying to make it work, regardless of his stability. Because scaling back and going to square one is not pretty for most women. Especially when they are nearly at the finish.
In regards to wedding celebrations, that is up to the bride. Whatever she wants, goes. Me personally I don’t see a point in a big wedding and is exactly why I didn’t want one. But you can’t expect other women to feel the same way as you considering it is THEIR DAY. As much as you love your brother, it’s not for you to have an opinion on his romantic life. Stop getting emotionally involved too much in his situation because already you feel a way about his potential spouse. Who knows? Maybe all her demands are justified? Maybe he promised he would give this to her. I honestly would just advise you to face your front, because if he brings this girl home, its only going to be you bothered about her. I know your heart is in the right place, but let your brother makes his own decisions.
Anon
3 years ago
Hi sis, hope you’re well inshAllah!
I need some advice on what to do… i started talking to this guy in the summer and things were perfect, he was honestly my perfect guy. As time went on life got in the way and he started to get a bit distant with less phone calls and texts however he was apologetic and explained to me before all this that he would be busy in the next couple of months. I spoke to him one day and let him know that maybe right now isn’t the right time for us and he agreed saying he had things he was occupied with. I understood and we decided to keep it moving. It’s been over a month since we stopped talking and he’s all i think about. I know he’s the one for me and he’s everything I’ve ever wanted. I can be a hard person to please and he ticks all my boxes. Whilst we were together i felt like i was with my soulmate. I’m 24, he’s 28 and although i know time isn’t running out for me, i feel like I’ve found my person. Should i just be patient and wait or move on?
It’s great that you still have feelings for this guy and want to pursue things again, but I really think you should give it time. Summer wasn’t that long ago for any of his situations to change. Also think you should really think about what actually makes him your soulmate because I genuinely believe that is and should be a mutual feeling. This though, is one sided.
In regards to him not making time for you, this is usually a big indicator if a man wants to be with you. If he is too busy for you, he just doesn’t like you enough and that’s the reality of it. If a man is interested, no distance, nothing will stand in the way from him making a connection with you! But if he is not interested, you can be next to his house, work in the same place as him, and he will still find a way to be too busy for you.
And yes you are only 24, trust me, your world is your oyster. At no point should you wait for him. In fact you should have potentials lined up by now.
Anon
3 years ago
Do you know any good pigmented blush that is affordable sis x
Is it okay for a man to be liking half naked pictures of girls when he is talking to a girl? Also when he follows loads of big booty bitches that don’t follow him back?
It’s not okay. And it’s not cute either. At least have some of these ‘big booty bitches’ follow you back? Like damn. Not only is he being thirsty, but the girls don’t want him either? Double homicide.
I (23F) have just started thinking about marriage and everything you say really resonates with me. I am the eldest so as every somali girl i’ve been raising kids and helping the house out financially. I’ve been helping out in a way a man should so I refuse to let this be my marital situation. This is where it becomes difficult because I now know exactly what I want in a man ie he has to take care of the house financially, be kind etc but sisss where the hell are these men? Due to covid its been really hard finding these types of men, online is a hot mess. Do you have any tips on where to go? I am really confident with men and have no problem holding a conversation, dates are minor but it seems like nowadays most guys run away from providing financially in the marriage and that for me is non-negotiable so my question really is do you have any tips on where to find these men?
Think about the type of men you want, and what places they would be around. For example, If you want someone who works in the corporate industry, start connecting with some of your friends that are in that same industry too. You need to find a link that will connect you to those kind of people or, at the very least, gives you the means to be around them. Also, regularly go out, try to go out with one friend- that way, it’s easier for men to approach you. Also get ready to go on pointless dates, thats because it takes a while for you to filter out the potentials from the bad. And don’t put to much pressure on yourself to find a man. Because sometimes it just happens for you when you are genuinely not looking.
My ex and I broke up amicably, even though the way it happened was kind of traumatic for me. However, months have unfolded and I really took in how he treated me (manipulation, control, mental abuse and narcissism). We were following each other on IG (I know… smh), so I unfollowed him and removed him as a follower so I can officially begin healing and moving on. He’s the kind of person who makes himself out to be a victim and will often twist everything on the other person he has any issue with, and so I worry that he’ll take me doing this as some kind of act of war (I know it sounds dramatic, but someone with narcissistic tendencies like him often see it that way). I did it because I really want to move on and have a clean slate after everything that I went through, and I don’t want to trigger him spreading things about me or trigger him into some hate spiral against me. How can I calm my mind down about this sister?
There’s no such thing as breaking up amicably with a narcissist, and that’s because they never want you to find any peace after the break up. So cut the contact NOW. Generally, abusive relationships form “trauma bonds” and this is what is keeping you addicted to that person even after the relationship has ended. It is also why its so hard to leave anyways. Also the more contact you have with him, the more likely he is going to go on a smear campaign, and do everything humanly possible to make you look crazy. They constantly play the victim and set out to ruin your reputation. And when that doesn’t work, they fucking hover over you hoping that you’ll give in.
It is in your best interest to act fast.
1) No Contact
2) If you guys have mutual friends, they don’t need to be here no more. Let them see the block button, immediately. Because all they will do is interfere.
3) Constantly remind yourself why this man is unstable. And how better off you were before he even came into your life.
4) Remind yourself that they WILL move on. As much as Narcissists will try to convince you that you are the only woman for them, they are lying. Anyone who will give them the attention they crave so much, is for them. They will switch to another source of happiness swiftly.
5) Keep yourself busy. Try to distance yourself mentally for this relationship as much as you can. I know its hard but grit your teeth and just forget.
The getting over someone is the hard part but it really doesn’t last that long. It only lasts long when you are still contacting/hoping that this person is going to change. Accept it and in a few months, you’ll genuinely forget about them. Good luck sis, you’ll be okay 🙂
I’m so excited for this website. My dilemma is that I had a crush on a guy for awhile now, we used to be best friends in high school. When I went to UNI i was going through a hard time and pushed everyone away including him. He tried shooting his shot, and I curved him. I just started recently having a crush him after all these years after I saw him in public. How can I pick up where we left, it’s been many years. I just want to talk to him again I don’t know if he harbors any bitterness for cutting him off but I honestly don’t know what to do.
Just go for it
You don’t have anything to lose, and maybe he wanted to reach out to you too, you’ll never know unless you find out. So find out!
Say something charming along the lines of “hey I was just randomly thinking about you/or something reminded me of you. How have you been?” And see what he says back.
Be really friendly and hopefully he might not even remember you cutting him off. Honestly be brave and just do it 😭 stuff like that was so exciting to me when I was younger man I used to live for it ahaha.
Will Ladan be doing any replies on this blog? It would be interesting to have both perspective on some of these dilemmas 👀
Yes!!!! I’m literally figuring out a way to set up an account for her as we speak 😭 There’s just too many to get through. Me and my husband are just learning new things as we go making this website. But yes, she’s coming and wallahi you guys will absolutely love her
Hey sis, I’ve been engaged for just over a year now. In my culture you have a nikah first (this is termed “engagement”), then plan for a wedding and move in together after this. We were together for around a year and a half before our nikah.
We’ve been through hell and back this past year. We don’t live together and have already learnt so much about each other. He didn’t witness a healthy relationship growing up and this really affected us, the same fundamental problems we had before we had our nikah started creeping back until I eventually had enough. I told him I couldn’t do it anymore and that I wanted a divorce. We didn’t speak for a month. Eventually, I forgave him as I really started to see a change in his behaviour, and he now does everything he can to make me happy. We’ve been good for a couple of months now. Honestly, I love him but I feel like it’s just not enough for me anymore. I appreciate him trying but everything he does gives me the ick now, and I feel like the amount of resentment I held towards him in the past has really taken its toll. However, I am so so so scared to break his heart. I know us separating would be extremely hard for him and that I would be painted as the bad person as he really loves me, and wants to try and work things out no matter what. I feel like I made my decision a long time ago and am just scared to act on it. I’ve tried everything in this time and nothing has worked, I just can’t bring back those feelings for him and it isn’t fair on him. He deserves to be with someone who loves and accepts him wholeheartedly. What do I do?
First and foremost, marriage is HARD WORK. And the first year of marriage, is always going to be the hardest. That’s really because you are adjusting to a new life, and you’re not sure what that looks like? And now you have to figure it out with someone basically tied to your hip. And when there are small hiccups, it feels like you are failing the marriage already when in reality, you’re not.
With that said, you haven’t said what the source of your resentment is. What are the fundamental problems and are those really enough for you not to persist with the marriage? You have said, since then, he has done everything in his power to make things better for you. That to me sounds like someone who is committed to making it work. I feel like you’re too in over your own head. Marriage is not smooth sailing all the time. It is a partnership more than anything, and it requires teamwork. Spouses are constantly changing in their marriage, and you literally grow together. You are constantly changing, and in a marriage, you learn to love every part of that new person they are becoming. Constantly harbouring resentment towards past behaviour is counter-productive. If you want any relationship to work, you need to work on that. Even if this doesn’t work, you are going to have a hard time building a solid foundation with anyone else if at any sign of distress, you’re first thought is to run in the opposite direction. Especially over something that might not be even a concern a few years down the line.
The best advice married couples have said to me is, nothing is really a big of a deal than what you think it is. This is another reason why the first year of a marriage is hard. That’s because now you have tied the knot publicly, its not a boyfriend and girlfriend dynamic, it’s the real deal. You are in a permanent union and the stakes just feel higher. And this makes you feel like every fight or disappointment in your relationship is like the end of the world, because so much is on the line. But in reality, all you guys did was just have a disagreement?
Whilst I say marriage is hard, there’s no need for the first year of your marriage to be unhappy. Sure, there’s a lot to be stressed about but try to keep some perspective. Marriage is the best thing in the world! It is more than having a best friend. It’s having someone you never have to hold back with. You learn a lot about yourself, you have someone to encourage you when your down, hold your hand, and you have a reason to get up and keep trying everyday because they make life worth it. When I say the first year is the hard part, I say this only because it’s the phase of you adjusting to your new life. You go from having no responsibilities to having the biggest one of them all, and that is fucking scary. Most times it has nothing to do with your partner, it’s just you getting over your fears.
I honestly would advise you to think twice about separating. You owe it to him and to yourself to make things work. This man has shown you that he is willing to change and make things right, that is a quality that is scarce in a lot of men. So is this really what you want?
Also I wanted to add: maybe things might change when you guys move in together. It might make you guys closer. Of course, this requires a big leap of faith, because it could go in any direction. But that is marriage for you. It requires a lot of faith, patience and most of all: COMMITMENT. Once you have exhausted every option, only then, should you consider a divorce. I am wishing you the very best and hopefully it works out for you. You’ll be good!
How do I enjoy being single when my culture and family are pressuring me to get married? I really want to focus on myself but it’s difficult when our lives are conditioned to revolve around men. I want to change this but I don’t know how
You are your own person. You are NOT a vicarious vessel for others to place their own neediness and expectations into. Its a good thing you want to focus on yourself, so make that very clear. I had a similar experience to this with external family members and I wasn’t here for it. The first time people came to me with bullshit, I made it very clear they weren’t allowed to have a say in my life. Ever. This is one thing I always say to people: don’t let others feel comfortable enough to have a say in what goes on in your life, especially when they are not the ones who are going to live with the decisions they want to make for you. Because they will just keep going.
And I didn’t waste my time trying to convince them to change their minds. As respectfully as I could, I let them now that I was handling my own life just fine and that I was good. After a while, they got bored. Don’t worry about this too much. When they notice and see you change into the person you’re becoming, focusing on your career, just living your life, they’ll get bored too. People are just jobless and too idle, it makes them feel better when they constantly know what it is you’re doing. Just be firm, and they’ll leave you alone.
(Brother question reply): Thanks for your response and I appreciate you taking the time writing a well thought out response. What you are said in regards to my family sharing the burden with him is true. I wish I didn’t have all that responsibility throughout his life. I just turned 19 and the money I earn from my job is peanuts and it’s crazy how I’m already being asked to pay bills for my father. I have said no because I actually can’t but, as the oldest he never got a choice. I just wish there was less focus on meher money in our community and extravagant weddings when the money could be put towards better use paying towards having a home, travelling, saving for kids etc. I don’t think women are materialistic. I am a woman and I know plenty others who aren’t. My thing is if you want to marry this guy and the money isn’t there why try to force it? She knew his salary but making demands like that is not fair in my opinion. Especially because my brother is very kind and has a good nature. Obviously I would never say anything like this to her or him but we need to be more thoughtful about these things as a community. Our household wealth compared to other immigrants in this country is so low and we have these unrealistic expectations when it comes towards marriage and money
I agree, if she knows he does not have it financially, there is no need for him to continue pushing him or making more demands. She ultimately has to decide what to do in that circumstance. Am I going to stick by him, even though financially he does not meet my expectations? Or do I just end it here? Obviously choosing the latter is a really hard call to make. I’m not surprised that she is still trying to make it work, regardless of his stability. Because scaling back and going to square one is not pretty for most women. Especially when they are nearly at the finish.
In regards to wedding celebrations, that is up to the bride. Whatever she wants, goes. Me personally I don’t see a point in a big wedding and is exactly why I didn’t want one. But you can’t expect other women to feel the same way as you considering it is THEIR DAY. As much as you love your brother, it’s not for you to have an opinion on his romantic life. Stop getting emotionally involved too much in his situation because already you feel a way about his potential spouse. Who knows? Maybe all her demands are justified? Maybe he promised he would give this to her. I honestly would just advise you to face your front, because if he brings this girl home, its only going to be you bothered about her. I know your heart is in the right place, but let your brother makes his own decisions.
Hi sis, hope you’re well inshAllah!
I need some advice on what to do… i started talking to this guy in the summer and things were perfect, he was honestly my perfect guy. As time went on life got in the way and he started to get a bit distant with less phone calls and texts however he was apologetic and explained to me before all this that he would be busy in the next couple of months. I spoke to him one day and let him know that maybe right now isn’t the right time for us and he agreed saying he had things he was occupied with. I understood and we decided to keep it moving. It’s been over a month since we stopped talking and he’s all i think about. I know he’s the one for me and he’s everything I’ve ever wanted. I can be a hard person to please and he ticks all my boxes. Whilst we were together i felt like i was with my soulmate. I’m 24, he’s 28 and although i know time isn’t running out for me, i feel like I’ve found my person. Should i just be patient and wait or move on?
It’s great that you still have feelings for this guy and want to pursue things again, but I really think you should give it time. Summer wasn’t that long ago for any of his situations to change. Also think you should really think about what actually makes him your soulmate because I genuinely believe that is and should be a mutual feeling. This though, is one sided.
In regards to him not making time for you, this is usually a big indicator if a man wants to be with you. If he is too busy for you, he just doesn’t like you enough and that’s the reality of it. If a man is interested, no distance, nothing will stand in the way from him making a connection with you! But if he is not interested, you can be next to his house, work in the same place as him, and he will still find a way to be too busy for you.
And yes you are only 24, trust me, your world is your oyster. At no point should you wait for him. In fact you should have potentials lined up by now.
Do you know any good pigmented blush that is affordable sis x
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